Category: Communication

The Agony of the Autopsy

I am a “Why?” person.  I am never finished asking questions and I am constantly wanting to dig deeper, uncovering the essential “why?” behind it all.  My best friends are very comfortable with discarding of the body of evidence.  They feel no remorse or shame in burying unanswered questions and letting well enough alone.  I,... Read more »

An Open Letter to My Autistic Son

  Jack, I can only imagine how difficult the school years have been for you. There have been countless days of you coming home embarrassed , ashamed, unsure and afraid. You have endured being made fun of, not fitting in, feeling like an outsider and dis-included from the group.  Your reservation in self advocacy has... Read more »

Dear Current Employeer: An Admission of Spring Break Defeat

Dear Current Employer, You may have found it strange that I encouraged you to extended you weekend plans as we parted last week.  I had known you were going out of town and I was secretly hoping for you to stay as long as possible.  Please don’t take this wrong, I meant no disrespect.  It’s... Read more »
Advertisement:

One Man's Burden Is Another Man's Opportunity

Mark visited his mom every other day religiously. Living close to the memory care facility that she resided, it was easy for him to stop by after work, during a lunch break or for brunch on the weekends. Marks father had passed away 6 months ago, and since then Marks mom had not spoken much.... Read more »

Coming To Grips with The Deterioration Of A Relationship

Recently I have had to reconcile with myself that not all the relationships I have been involved with are good for my health. It’s a hard pill to swallow when you realize that you have outgrown a pattern of engagement that was once your only foundation. Acquaintances  come and go, family members die, new friends... Read more »

When Life Gives You Bananas, Make Banana Bread

When I met Caroline she was a very particular lady with impeccable taste for good clothing, accessories and jewelry.  She was always dressed to the nines and appeared to have everything in her apartment in perfect order. Her organization was something to be desired as she always had her papers piled neatly, her closet tidy... Read more »
Advertisement:

Dear Mr. Marks...

Dear Mr. Marks, Yeah, Yeah, I know. You want me to call you “Joe” or “Sarge” but I still have the hardest time bringing myself to that.  To  me you will always be Mr. Marks, always such a gentleman.  We met several years ago when you and your wife lived in an apartment above mine.... Read more »

"Remembering" Vs. Knowing And Loving

I recently watched a movie about a woman suffering with Alzheimer’s disease. Each of her caregivers handled the changes differently, yet there was a common thread that tied them all together… their frustration in not being remembered. Each of the woman’s children would pepper her with questions like “What’s my name mom?”,  “Don’t you know... Read more »

An Allergy To Others

Let’s be honest. We are not always the best people for the job.  We may find ourselves stinking at the “parenting role” one day or really being a shitty friend.  There may even be times when we suck at our own professions, having a horrible day of screw-ups, mistakes and utter failures. This is true... Read more »
Advertisement:

Using Empathy To Become A Trusted Caregiver

Janice loved her job as the lead Physical Therapist at Joy’s Rehab Facility.  She had worked there for several years now and always enjoyed the role of training new staff. One morning she asked her team to meet before the therapy room filled with patients.  “I am struggling with Mr. Eugene,” she started, “and I... Read more »