One of the problems with monogamy is that it encourages us to treat a partner as something other than a friend. You don’t, after all, feel anger towards a friend if they have positive experiences with other people.
There’s some sort of idea of ownership and a feeling that we should be all our partner ever needs in life built into monogamy and I believe that it creates trouble for people.
The theme becomes “am I enough” rather than “what can we add to each other’s lives?”
*This has been the first entry in what I intend to be a series of posts on this subject that I hope will eventually be able to be compiled into a larger project. I encourage and even ask for responses to this post and the ones that follow. I would like nothing more than for this to turn into a productive conversation