I don’t believe in the term “father’s rights.” I also don’t believe in the term “mother’s rights.” In my opinion they are just marketing words designed to prey on the fears of scared people in vulnerable situations.
That said, there are laws that are ridiculous and hurt both fathers and mothers that have to pay child support to an ex.
At the top of this list is a law that does not take in to consideration your financial or family situation if you have to pay child support. In other words, let’s say you make $500 a week after taxes. If you have one child, you will pay $100 a week for child support. If they are in day care you will pay half of that amount. So let’s assume that’s another $100 a week. That leaves you with $300.
If you have other kids and can’t afford rent, food, etc for them, that does not matter. In other words, those kids could end up homeless or living in terrible conditions and the harm they suffer will not be considered by a Judge at all. Child support is what it is; you have to pay it and whatever the collateral damage is does not typically matter.
Beyond that, let’s say this same person has an ex who is now married to a millionaire or made herself in to a millionaire and has no financial needs. The amount you’d have to pay for child support would not change one bit, even if your life or that of your family is ruined and even if the money you contribute makes no real difference in the life of the child you two share together.
I get disgusted whenever I hear of a parent that ignores the needs of their kids and I am in no way advocating that anyone skirt their parental responsibilities. In fact, too many people do this already with child support by working cash jobs.
But the problem with the law is that it doesn’t allow Judges to judge a situation. Illinois child support law treats almost every situation the same without giving a Judge to look at the unique individual circumstances everyone is facing.
Every case and every life is different. There is no reason that if you have three kids living with you that their lives should not be taken in to consideration when it comes to determining what you pay for child support. If you bring a kid in this world you need to be responsible for them. But that should include EVERY kid, not just the ones that are a part of a court process.
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