Why so Many are Developing "Facebook Fatigue"


Six weeks ago I finally left Facebook for good after trying to leave
on numerous prior occasions. Facebook does you no favors in their
multi-step deactivation process, obviously intended to frustrate you
into staying. But since deactivating my account, productivity for me and
traffic for this website is WAY UP! I've also spent a lot less time
pseudo "socializing" online, and more time doing actual socializing in
"real time."

And I'm not alone in leaving the social network.

According to the Daily Mail:

"Fearing for their privacy or perhaps just bored with using
the site, 100,000 Britons are said to have deactivated their accounts
last month. And Facebook fatigue seems to be catching. Six million
logged off for good in the U.S. too, figures show."

By Paul M. Banks


According to Fox New York

Inside Facebook said overall growth at the social networking
giant "has been lower than normal for the second month straight, which
is unusual."

I can't reasonably say whether you should quit or not. That depends
on your life circumstances and values. What I can tell you is why I
left, and maybe some of these situations apply to you. If you're someone
who's course in life has geographically separated you from your friends
and family, then by all means Facebook is for you! It just doesn't work
for me.

Whenever anything gets to be TOO POPULAR, it doesn't gel for me. I've
never fit into a specific clique/group in my life. I never will, and
after 33 years on this planet I've realized I actually don't want to. Whitesnake said it best: "I've made up my mind, and I ain't wasting no more time."

And most things that become obscenely popular both lack substance and
are actually terrible for you (see Jersey Shore, Groupon, owning tiny dogs, Lady
Gaga, Ke$ha, Dave Matthews Band, McDonald's, Taco Bell, fake breasts,
big box stores...must I go on?)

That said, let's take a look at why Facebook and I are no longer "friends."

I didn't go to my 10 year high school reunion, I'm not going to my 20 year either

If I went to high school/college/MBA school with you but we are no
longer in communication, I really could not give two shits about you or
your personal and professional life. The natural order dictates that we
know nothing about each other- let's keep it that way. People drift
apart for a reason, but Facebook breaks the laws of nature. My friend
Matt Lindner of ESPN Page 2 said it best:

"Facebook is for the people you know but wish you didn't, Twitter is
for the people you don't know but wish you did." If pills existed that
would make me care even less about my former schoolmates, I would order
my doctor to prescribe them.

Zero News Value

Twitter is the new Associated Press. Period. Everything breaks there
first. Does it have lots of annoying/useless/trite "I ran 19 miles
today" and "hey, just finished a tuna salad, now I'm going to the gym
again" status updates? Yes it does, but it's also much easier to sort
through all the unoriginal crap to find news on Twitter than it is on
Facebook. People do post interesting links on Facebook and it's driven a
lot of traffic to my site, but that is not worth all the drawbacks.

Too many kid pictures/updates

They should make a Facebook for just grandparents, since they're the
only ones who care about this stuff. I have 7 nieces and nephews that I
love and care for. After all that, I don't have time/energy to care
about your kids, and guess what? None of your other friends do either.
They just aren't as blunt as I am. I care as much about your kid as I do
about your: fantasy
teams, recreational sports league record/stats and March Madness
bracket; on a scale of 1-100 my interest in these things is negative 75.

Too many people I've met just once or never at all talking sports with me

I talk sports for a living, I don't need to do it in my spare time. Ask any other member of the sports media
industrial complex and he or she (99/100 it's "he") will tell you the
same. If you're going to comment on my articles that's nice, but do it
on this site- not on Facebook as that does nothing for me. And a lot of
people commenting on sports probably didn't even read the article, so
thank you for wasting my time.

Too many single moms in other states hitting on me. Some with really bad "tramp stamps"

A couple years ago, Facebook became the new Myspace in that a lot of
people you would never ever cross paths with in real life start
interacting with you. Think of it like attending the auto show, or say
you were an honor student in high school. Remember what gym or health
class was like? In terms of the people you interact with versus those
you interact with the rest of the day outside of that hour. If you're
getting this analogy by now, then you're certainly not one of those

Moving on, my ego is healthy enough (my friends/family would say it's
too healthy) I don't need to know that someone I'll never meet in real
life in another time zone is supposedly very attracted to me. Cuz in the
end, what's the point? Look at Anthony Weiner. He never actually
physically touched any of those women, so why do cyber sex? The
affirmation? I'll pass thank you very much.

Too many bored housewives hitting on me.

If you want to know why the divorce rate is north of 62%, let me show
some of the texts/facebook messages I've received from married women in
the past year. Sure, some of them have said these very inappropriate
things to me in real life as well, but they get their material from Facebook.
It's where they used to keep tabs on me before I quit.

Some guys use Facebook to meet
girls and hook-up. More power to you, go nuts, have fun. I think it
blocks you. We all know that cliche, as true as it is, women go for the
guy who's not trying. We've all heard women say about men they're
attracted to "he's so mysterious." Well, you can't be mysterious when
all this info about yourself is readily available. If it seems like I'm
leaving Facebook because I'm single, then I must bring up 2009. I had a
live-in girlfriend that year and I rarely, if ever logged in to Facebook
during that time. Granted she was more high maintenance than
most...but...well let's move on.

Yes, this is the age of over-sharing. And everyone who does social
media is at least a little bit narcissist and egomaniacal. So we can all
afford to cut back on that behavior somewhat.

Losers with nothing to do IMing me/Privacy issues/Spammers/People trying to make me join their worthless groups

I think it's time to move on the conclusion, I've said enough.

We all loved "The Social Network;" it was a great movie. And I
greatly enjoyed the Facebook documentary special on CNBC and the pages
I've read so far in "The Facebook Effect." It's the book the movie was
based on. Mark Zuckerberg, Dustin Moskovitz, Chris Hughes, Sean Parker,
Eduardo Saverin and the rest of the Facebook founders achieved greatness with what they created. It's a phenomenally transcendent media
business story that has made all of them OBSCENELY WEALTHY.

They truly are revolutionaries in communications technology and entrepreneurship.

It's just that from a user end perspective, Facebook improves my
social and professional life about as much as a pile of dogshit.

Paul M. Banks is CEO of The Sports Bank.net. He's also a regular contributor to Chicago Now, Walter Football.com, Yardbarker, and Fox Sports You can follow him on Twitter


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