What's in a name?

I thought about changing my name this year. Well, it’s not that cut and dry. You see, I’m in this weird funk, where I’m always just a little agitated because I’m afraid that nothing is ever going to go right again. My dad died in October, one day he was sick and then he was... Read more »

2017: The Year Hope Didn't Die

2017: The Year Hope Didn't Die
Tonight, I’m clinging to 2017. It’s the last night of the last year of my dad’s life, and I’m dreading tomorrow when I have to step into a new year and truly leave him behind. My dad and I didn’t have a great relationship, as I’ve mentioned before, and I had done a sort of... Read more »

Thoughts from the 9th Floor

Thoughts from the 9th Floor
Last night, during dinner with my boyfriend, I found myself laughing uncontrollably as the absurdity of my current situation hit me full in the face, for what felt like the very first time. Since June 20th, my dad has gone from having a broken leg, to having stage 4 non-small cell lung cancer, and is currently... Read more »
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Love is Love is Love

Yesterday, my sister graduated from college, and as I watched her walk across the stage, I was filled with an incredible sense of joy. I was thinking about that moment, watching my sister collect her degree, knowing how hard she worked, and how she had struggled because of her learning disabilities. Knowing how that moment... Read more »

The Mannings, Elway, and the Lies They Tell

I just read Shaun King’s article about Peyton Manning, and I’m reeling. (Read King’s article before you judge the situation; I promise that you’ll find that it’s going to be really hard to make excuses for Manning’s behavior.) Like I said, I’m reeling, but it’s mostly out of guilt, because on Sunday I was cheering... Read more »

This is Not a Eulogy for David Bowie

Every picture of Lucky is a glamour shot.
This morning, when we arrived home from the emergency vet, eyes swollen from crying, head aching from sobs, my sister rolled over in my bed and said, “Well, David Bowie is dead. Leave it to David Bowie to upstage my cat.” For a second I was confused, what was she talking about? I couldn’t think... Read more »
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My voice is small...

I watched the full, unedited video of Sandra Bland’s arrest and I cried. I was so angry, so full of rage, so devastated because I saw that everything that was happening to her was so wrong, so out of line, and so unfair. Ms. Bland “failed to signal,” “refused to put out her cigarette,” was... Read more »

Emma Sulkowicz Made a Film

hunnnterrr / Foter / CC BY I watched Emma Sulkowicz’s video, Ceci nest pas un viol. I hesitate to call it a “sex tape,” like just about everyone else on the internet because I believe that it’s more than that, and to label it a “sex tape” is reductive. To be honest, I don’t know why... Read more »

Some days you're the meatballs.

On Monday, I was contacted and asked to speak at a large event on Tuesday the 28th. It was the launch event for a major organization that works to raise awareness about sexual assault and domestic violence. I didn’t hear anything all week, until Friday, when I spoke with my contact and she told me... Read more »
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The NFL is a Fickle Friend: NO MORE, The Draft, and Jameis Winston

The NFL is a Fickle Friend: NO MORE, The Draft, and Jameis Winston
The NFL attempted to fix their publicity problems last season by teaming up with the advocacy group NO MORE. This relationship resulted in a PSA campaign featuring prominent figures in the NFL challenging the culture of domestic violence and rape within their community. From NO MORE: Beginning in the fall of 2014, headlines about domestic violence and... Read more »