I Did Not Need a Marriage Certificate to Get Knocked Up

For those of you that do not know me, I am a 40 year old, first time mom to a gorgeous 14 month old son and I am in a loving, long term, relationship with his father. We are not married.

GASP!

You heard me right....I did not need a marriage certificate to get pregnant and start a family.

My parents have been married 41 years. In today's society, that is a rarity. There are so many different meanings of family. All of which are special in their own way. All which stray away from the "Joneses" of yesterday where two people fell in love, got married, had children, and the dad was the bread winner while the mom stayed at home.

Today there are many couples just like us. People who found each other later in life and decided a family was more important than a diamond ring, dress, and a marriage certificate. There are plenty of people who ask us all the time, " So when are you two planning to get married already??"

Does a marriage certificate help you raise your children better? Does it make you better parents?? Does it make you love your children more?

Families like ours, modern families, have a special dynamic. Although we are unmarried, we own a home together, we both work full time, and contribute equally. We all have health insurance and we have life insurance policies in place to benefit each other and our son. We share parenting equally. Because we both work full time, our son is in daycare. That doesn't make us bad people. We do what works for us. You have to do what is best for your specific family dynamic. In today's society there is no set standard anymore. Non-traditional families are the future of our country.

From widowed and single mothers, to gay couples, to adoptive parents , to single men, to unmarried couples, to older couples, and to the working class families, we all love our children. The marriage before carriage standard is out the window. The standard idea that a single mom must have gotten pregnant on accident is gone. Gay couples have the right to be parents. And just because you are physically unable to bear children doesn't mean you have to sit this life out. Everyone has the right to a family.

I'm part of the Modern Family Nation. Are you?

 

 

 

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