Category: Love

“A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time”

“A long marriage is two people trying to dance  a duet and two solos at the same time”
In elementary school, I remember the anxiety of the Valentine’s day ritual: the class making crayon-colored, cardboard hearts stealthily passed from desk to desk. How many would I collect as proof of my popularity? How good I felt when the stack was big; and how awful I felt when it wasn’t! When I got older... Read more »

Emojis are not substitutes for genuine emotions

Emojis are not substitutes for genuine emotions
Can a Smiley Face on a cold screen replace a warm hearted hug? The internet links people together but what of the essential elements of a true relationship? An emoticon is not a replacement for feelings of intimacy. It is doubtful that 280-characters in a tweet can truly express the depth of our love, our... Read more »

Deep inhale. Slow exhale. And a determined “I’ve got this!”

Deep inhale.  Slow exhale.  And a determined “I’ve got this!”
Over the years I’ve talked openly with several skilled therapists as I sought to understand the traumas of the past that shaped my life. They helped me find answers to the complicated inter-personal puzzles as we worked together to identify and interpret the bygone events. The process was rewarding and enlightening, but there was a... Read more »
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I looked in the mirror and let out a gasp. Who was that old guy staring back at me?

I looked in the mirror and let out a gasp. Who was that old guy staring back at me?
The eye-opener came when I realized with a jolt, the pendulum has started its swing; time is running out. It was a freak out moment, but a positive force as well. It gave me the motivation to stop dwelling on attrition from the creep of time and to focus on what I could do to... Read more »

For a glorious 2020 I offer the teachings of Hari Jiwan Singh

For a glorious 2020 I offer the teachings of Hari Jiwan Singh
I’ve written hundreds of posts acknowledging the difficult circumstances and problems that come with aging. Physical decline, psychological and emotional struggles, social and financial difficulties are inevitable as we grow older. It’s understandable that on occasion, “Why go on?” comes to the surface as a legitimate question. Many a morning, even as I write the... Read more »

Resigned to the expression, “No One is a Prophet in their Own Land”

Resigned to the expression,  “No One is a Prophet in their Own Land”
Earlier this month a colleague and I led a meaningful workshop that was emotionally profound and had a significant impact on participants’ lives. It was incredibly rewarding for me as well as the attendees. I remember a man in the group rationalizing a failed goal with endless excuses and blaming of others. Gently I led... Read more »
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I’m learning a new behavior. It’s called “Be Who You Are”

I’m learning a new behavior.  It’s called “Be Who You Are”
At the starting point of my adult life I was prepped by what I was told was the basis for success. The definition: big office in the corner with windows on both sides and power to fire anyone who threatened to knock me off the top of the hill. Consequently, the fact that I enjoyed... Read more »

I’m 87 years old and fifty years from now I’ll be having Thanksgiving dinner at my granddaughter’s house

I’m 87 years old and fifty years from now I’ll be having Thanksgiving dinner at my granddaughter’s house
My annual Thanksgiving post published each year as long as my granddaughter and I grow a year older together. This is not a headline about spiking the stuffing with a psychotropic. It’s about the focus of these essays, cheating death by doing the things that give life joy and meaning. For me, of all the... Read more »

“The fragrance always remains in the hand that gives roses...” Mata Amritanandamayi

“The fragrance always remains in the hand that gives roses...” Mata Amritanandamayi
Several years ago I wrote a short story entitled “Amma the Hugger.”  It was a fictionalized account of a pilgrimage to an event where spiritual leader Sri Mata Amritanandamayi Devi, known throughout the world simply as “Amma”, or mother, is offering emotional solace and spiritual guidance.  At the end of the event Amma literally hugs... Read more »
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Why is it so difficult to believe we are worthy of being loved?

Why is it so difficult to believe we are worthy of being loved?
Over the past years I’ve written about my travels on the road to redemption like reviews on TripAdvisor, describing my progress along the way so fellow travelers approaching the predestined off-ramp can benefit from an awareness of what’s to come and how to handle it. I think the first ‘review’ had to do with confronting... Read more »