Category: Life style

“I don’t have to rehearse being myself” (Walter Mercado)

“I don’t have to rehearse being myself” (Walter Mercado)
Describing Walter Mercado is like writing a limerick. He was a wildly flamboyant clairvoyant, Homosexual, metrosexual, straight or bi. “I am who I am,” he said with a sigh. Beloved by the Latino community, Mucho, mucho amor was his immunity. The Netflix documentary about astrologist Walter Mercado, titled Mucho Mucho Amor, is worth viewing for... Read more »

How to add years of joy and meaning to life. (Secrets revealed, Part 3)

How to add years of joy and meaning to life. (Secrets revealed, Part 3)
It cannot be said too many times. If you want to be happy as you enter the home stretch, follow this two-step process. 1. Let go of ‘what was’ and make a realistic appraisal of ‘what is.’ 2. Build your future around the good stuff that shows up in your assessment. There is danger in... Read more »

How to add years of joy and meaning to life! (Secrets revealed – Part 2)

How to add years of joy and meaning to life!  (Secrets revealed – Part 2)
Half a lifetime ago I attended a workshop that had me sign a contract not to drink or take drugs during the length of the event. At the dinner break, my friends who were lapping up the frozen margaritas, passed a glass for their suddenly sober pal to taste. “What’s with you,” they teased, this... Read more »
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How to add years of joy and meaning to life! (Secrets revealed – Part 1)

How to add years of joy and meaning to life!  (Secrets revealed – Part 1)
Four years ago I started writing this weekly post believing that sharing the experiences I encountered on the journey to Elderhood would help others traveling the path behind me. I’ve been distracted along the way, diverted by the country’s social unrest, a divisive political arena, my antipathy for the president and of course, most recently,... Read more »

America goes to the therapist. (We listen in)

America goes to the therapist. (We listen in)
Therapist: America, you’ve made appointments before, and left after a session or two. Are you ready now to dig in and do the work that is necessary to heal? America: The murder of George Floyd in Minneapolis was literally an eight minutes and forty-six seconds movie that all of America saw. There no longer is... Read more »

The third stage of Elderhood: Making sure your life mattered!

The third stage of Elderhood: Making sure your life mattered!
The first stage of my passage to Elderhood took place in my mid-sixties, give or take. I looked in the mirror and recognized the disconnect between the image I presented to the world and the soul behind the reflection, and I asked myself, How did I get here and how do I want to live... Read more »
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Speeding down the highway when suddenly a stoplight appears

Speeding down the highway when suddenly a stoplight appears
We were driving on a super-highway, pedal to the metal, when suddenly we were forced to slam on the brakes and come to a grinding halt. At first, we stifled our annoyance but as time passed, we leaned on the horn to signal our exasperation. But the jam didn’t yield, and it became apparent we... Read more »

My friend searches for the meaning of life. And gives me the answer each time I see him

My friend searches for the meaning of life. And gives me the answer each time I see him
I’m chuckling. How well I know the frustration my friend is experiencing. For decades I went through the same exercise, seeking a definitive answer for the imponderable. Eureka, I shouted, after reading Viktor Frankl’s book, “Man’s Search for Meaning.” All I have to do to find my reason for being is to identify a purpose... Read more »

Apology to my African-American brother

Apology to my African-American brother
I thought long and hard about writing this post. How do I justify or authenticate an exhortation that cries out for indignation and protest against the racial violence that consumes our country when I am writing this from my plush condo overlooking the lake? And then it comes to me. That is the point of... Read more »
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“It’s not my time,” the old man said. “Whose time is it” I asked, “if it’s not yours?”

“It’s not my time,” the old man said. “Whose time is it” I asked, “if it’s not yours?”
The big challenge for me as the weeks of sheltering in place pile up, is to see the idle time as an opportunity to try new things, to stay busy and engaged rather than submit to the lure of the couch and skipped shower and growing a mustache as my ‘big project’ for the shut-in.... Read more »