Before you get carried away with scenes out of the Manchurian Candidate or imagine I’m recruiting you into a secret cult by zapping your mind with subliminal images secretly inserted within this post, slow down, this is not about me changing your way of thinking against your will.
It’s about reviewing the attitudes and beliefs you’ve become accustomed to accepting as valid and giving your thinking a good scrubbing to look honestly at how you are living your life in the here and now. You may be operating on rote rather than on what’s real… or what you perceive to be real.
Too often what we see as real depends on where we come from, how we experienced life as it was imposed on us. The fact is, sometimes experience is not the best teacher!
What I’m recommending is, put life’s comedy-drama on pause. Freeze the frame and expand your ability to experience where you are, right now, with nothing added.
Obviously, what we were taught in the past influences the way we behave in the present but sadly for many of us the environments we grew up in and accepted as “our lot in life” not only failed to nurture us they defined our “truth.” And in the words of Shel Silverstein, “Teddy said it was a hat, so I put it on. Now dad is saying, ‘where the heck's the toilet plunger gone?’”
Some of my therapist friends are not fans of the harsh format of the original est training but I like this quote from the controversial Warner Erhardt: “The truth can set you free but first it might piss you off.” What the controversial guru was saying is, only “distance, time and form” is reality. Put another way, physicality is real; anything else is strictly our stuff.
Scrubbing the brain allows us to detach and get clarity and to ask ourselves, are our thoughts and feelings implants that are holding us back, or giving us the confidence to succeed? Have our perceptions become our reality?
This is not an easy exercise! But I urge you to give it a go. For me it literally transformed my ability to experience living. When I stripped away all the self-generated melodrama, I saw the telenovela I was creating. Looking into the mirror, unadorned, without the compulsion to pander to an audience, the Evil Queen behind the reflection told the truth. I was not the fairest in the land; it became clear I was hiding behind a façade that covered up the man I wanted to be.
This brainwashing is more than ending up with “understanding.” That’s an intellectual outcome. I’m talking about “getting it” with a clarity that turns your eyes into pinwheels. You’re not just taking your old After Six wedding tuxedo out of the closet and thinking about an upgrade. You are literally determining how you want to live the rest of your life.
Now you can hit the ‘Play’ button, the author of your own life’s story, with a new ending if that’s what you desire. All is possible by recognizing what is and knowing what can be.
A SATURDAY MORNING WORKSHOP:
HOW I THINK IS WHO I AM
In keeping with the theme of this post, I’m co-hosting a workshop offering insights into literally changing the way we look at our lives.
The learned behavior of the past influences the way we behave in the present. We come to think of our circumstances as “our lot in life.” The workshop asks the question, has perception become reality… are you selling yourself short?
Experiential exercises will demonstrate how the brain works and how you can use this knowledge to convert negative influences into positive energy, facing life with renewed confidence in yourself.
I’ll be joined by Brian Tucker, an Advanced Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Master Practitioner of the science of Neuro Linguistic Programming; and my wife, Arlene Howard Englander, a prominent family therapist and my co-author of the “In-Sourcing Handbook: where and how to find the happiness you deserve,” a practical guide to personal fulfillment.
JANUARY 12, 2019
9:30AM – 12:30PM
CONFERENCE ROOM (SUITE NUMBER 1111)
30 N. MICHIGAN AVENUE
SPACE IS LIMITED. PLEASE RESPOND BY JANUARY 8
VIA RETURN EMAIL OR PHONE – 312-209-3883