“I don’t have to rehearse being myself” (Walter Mercado)

“I don’t have to rehearse being myself” (Walter Mercado)
Describing Walter Mercado is like writing a limerick. He was a wildly flamboyant clairvoyant, Homosexual, metrosexual, straight or bi. “I am who I am,” he said with a sigh. Beloved by the Latino community, Mucho, mucho amor was his immunity. The Netflix documentary about astrologist Walter Mercado, titled Mucho Mucho Amor, is worth viewing for... Read more »

From the Highway to the Path

From the Highway to the Path
The direction of my biography, well into middle age, was a chronology of a life on the move, ever moving, perhaps careening is a better word, from one event, relationship, and/or geographical location to another. Thankfully, a man can change. Today, I am settled. I am happy. I am married 32 years come August 2020.... Read more »

“We cannot mistake absolutism for principle, or substitute spectacle for politics, or treat name-calling as reasoned debate.” President Barack Obama’s inaugural address – Jan. 2013

“We cannot mistake absolutism for principle, or substitute spectacle for politics, or treat name-calling as reasoned debate.” President Barack Obama’s inaugural address – Jan. 2013
It’s clear I’m a dedicated Democrat who loathes Trump and his pissant cohorts. But my concern come November’s election day goes far beyond partisan politics. I’m frightened for the future of our country. The election is not only about who we are voting for, but what we are voting for. It’s our job, as Elders,... Read more »
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How to add years of joy and meaning to life. (Secrets revealed, Part 3)

How to add years of joy and meaning to life. (Secrets revealed, Part 3)
It cannot be said too many times. If you want to be happy as you enter the home stretch, follow this two-step process. 1. Let go of ‘what was’ and make a realistic appraisal of ‘what is.’ 2. Build your future around the good stuff that shows up in your assessment. There is danger in... Read more »

How to add years of joy and meaning to life! (Secrets revealed – Part 2)

How to add years of joy and meaning to life!  (Secrets revealed – Part 2)
Half a lifetime ago I attended a workshop that had me sign a contract not to drink or take drugs during the length of the event. At the dinner break, my friends who were lapping up the frozen margaritas, passed a glass for their suddenly sober pal to taste. “What’s with you,” they teased, this... Read more »

How to add years of joy and meaning to life! (Secrets revealed – Part 1)

How to add years of joy and meaning to life!  (Secrets revealed – Part 1)
Four years ago I started writing this weekly post believing that sharing the experiences I encountered on the journey to Elderhood would help others traveling the path behind me. I’ve been distracted along the way, diverted by the country’s social unrest, a divisive political arena, my antipathy for the president and of course, most recently,... Read more »
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America goes to the therapist. (We listen in)

America goes to the therapist. (We listen in)
Therapist: America, you’ve made appointments before, and left after a session or two. Are you ready now to dig in and do the work that is necessary to heal? America: The murder of George Floyd in Minneapolis was literally an eight minutes and forty-six seconds movie that all of America saw. There no longer is... Read more »

My granddaughter and a boy in a red sweater end violence in America

My granddaughter and a boy in a red sweater end violence in America
Four years ago this post spoke to the simmering rage of a country divided. Sadly, in the interim years, progress at instituting change has been limited. Now the George Floyd tragedy has turned the world upside down. Once again, we plea for the power of love to prevail. Dear Lord, we do not want to... Read more »

The third stage of Elderhood: Making sure your life mattered!

The third stage of Elderhood: Making sure your life mattered!
The first stage of my passage to Elderhood took place in my mid-sixties, give or take. I looked in the mirror and recognized the disconnect between the image I presented to the world and the soul behind the reflection, and I asked myself, How did I get here and how do I want to live... Read more »
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Speeding down the highway when suddenly a stoplight appears

Speeding down the highway when suddenly a stoplight appears
We were driving on a super-highway, pedal to the metal, when suddenly we were forced to slam on the brakes and come to a grinding halt. At first, we stifled our annoyance but as time passed, we leaned on the horn to signal our exasperation. But the jam didn’t yield, and it became apparent we... Read more »