Prom Sucks: Don't judge me and I won't judge you

Prom Sucks: Don't judge me and I won't judge you

The only thing I'm looking forward to about this upcoming Prom weekend is for it to be over.

It took months and hundreds of dresses for my daughter to find the perfect one -- which was just a few days ago. No, that didn't cause any fighting at all.

I've been given a whole portfolio selling me on the post prom activities. No, that didn't cause any fighting at all.

Her budget and my budget for the over-hyped weekend are two completely different things. No, that didn't cause any fighting at all.

I'm not sure what it's like in your area, but it's pretty customary here to get bussed to and from prom, then the hormone-filled-not-quite-developed-brained teenagers are let loose to go to a rented lake house to spend two nights celebrating their youth. As a kid, how fun would that be? As a parent, how terrifying would that be?

A few years ago, the thought of any of that cracked me up and it wouldn't be an option. Now that I'm here, on the brink of my kid going off to college, a weekend away doesn't seem that far fetched. However, much to my child's dismay, it's not going to happen.

I got into a heated discussion with a group of moms and I was being verbally attacked for being naive because I'm not letting my daughter sleep over at the lake house after prom. She's the only one out of approximately 20 kids that will not be sleeping over. I was told over and over again how I'll have no control once she leaves for college and I need to cut the cord.

Here's the thing, those moms have no idea the series of events that led up to our decision. They don't know our history or any other factors that came into play when we decided not to let her sleep over. We're compromising and bringing her up first thing Sunday morning and she'll miss the initial 5-6 hours. Right or wrong, it's our decision.

Once upon a time, I would retaliate and say you're an idiot for letting your kid off to a drinking orgy, but quite frankly, I don't know all the factors that went into your decision and maybe the group your child is going with is awesome. Maybe you have great chaperones attending. Maybe your kid is incredibly trustworthy and always makes smart decisions, or maybe you think they're old enough and your job is done. The point is, we're just making different decisions. I'm not going to judge you, so please, stop judging me.


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