After a heated debate with a virtual friend over the controversial tweet by the chef of Alinea (an upscale Chicago restaurant), I thought I'd seek other people's opinion.
A couple brought their 8 month old baby into Alinea where the meals on Sunday cost $235 - before tax and tip. Their baby was crying the whole time and disturbing everyone's experience. Chef Grant Achatz tweeted: "Tbl brings 8mo.Old. It cries. Diners mad. Tell ppl no kids? Subject diners 2crying? Ppl take infants 2 plays? Concerts? Hate saying no, but...,"
The news was big yesterday, and someone posted on Facebook about the intolerance of other people's children. I responded that I thought it was the parent's fault, not the diners around them and with her permission, I'll post our conversation and would like you to weigh in on the debate.
We have the right to bring our babies wherever we'd like to take them and people should be more tolerable of their behavior
I'm sorry, but I have to disagree. Those parents should have had more sense than to bring their baby into Alinea. It's expensive and if they were sitting next to me, I'd be pissed.
You have to prepay at Alinea and from what I heard, the parents had their babysitter cancel at the last minute. You can't get your money back.
You can almost always find a baby sitter and if you can't, you can try to resell or give away your dinner.
You're not considering those poor stressed out parents
You're not considering the unsuspecting diners that are paying a good deal for a delightful experience. Those parents chose to have kids - I've got news for you. Kids are a pain in the ass sometimes and you can't always do whatever you want with them. You have to suffer because you chose to have them. Others around you had no choice.
Do you just hate children?
Um, those that aren't mine? Yeah, pretty much.
Well that explains a lot. Society needs to adapt to parents that want to have a life and we all need to have more sympathy toward those parents.
I believe the word you're looking for is empathy, and funny enough I wrote about that yesterday. I have empathy, but it turns into frustration when parents don't have consideration.
You need to realize that as parents we are allowed to go wherever we want and our children have the right to go right along with us. We should have a more family-friendly world.
You need to realize it's not all about you. There are plenty of ups and downs to parenthood and respecting other people's experience should be incorporated into your everyday existence. When your kids are little, part of it entails curtailing your social life a bit. It has nothing to do with rights, but it does have something to do with what's right.
Well I think your opinions suck
OK, you win. I guess you won't be calling me to babysit anytime soon - enjoy your next dinner at Alinea.
Not one of my finer moments, but I wanted to put the whole thing out there because I'd like to know if I am way off base here. Do you bring your babies to nice restaurants, concerts, plays? I rarely ever did any of those things and to this day am always conscious of my kid's behavior and making sure they don't disturb others. Do you feel the same, or do you think society needs to be more kid-friendly?
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