I think it all started with Rosanne Barr. Do you remember when people asked her what she did, she would proudly belt out, "I am a DOMESTIC GODDESS." Other titles include Domestic Engineer, Family Director, Domestic Operations Manager, or even Home Executive Director. In other words, a stay-at-home mom.
Crazy enough, it's not the most respected title in the world, that's why we're always searching for validation anywhere we can find it. Hoping that an elevated title will equate with an elevated amount of respect. One of the reasons this job comes with inherent disrespect is because anyone female can do it. ANYONE. But the thing is, very few can do it really well.
I just want moms to know that giving themselves a title other than what they really are, isn't fooling anyone. It makes you look ridiculous and quite honestly devalues the greatest profession of all. You don't see brain surgeons coming up with job titles like Cranium Director to look that much more important. It's just silly.
What made me think of all this was an e-mail I received from the kindergarten center that my son attends. It started out as, "Congratulations, you've been selected as the head room parent for your child's classroom!" As soon as I got over the initial shock (I thought I just signed up to help at one of the parties...), I read further.
It was filled with an overabundance of information, and then I read the closing. It had her name and underneath it was: VICE PRESIDENT of ROOM PARENTS. I sat at my computer and burst out laughing. I chuckled about that one pretty much all day. There are 5 classrooms in the building. All kindergarteners. VP of parents? Seriously? I know you're searching for a title other than MOM, but come on. Being a mom and being a volunteer in the school is AMAZING. Society would crumble without you and I know the educational system would suffer if it was filled with slacker moms such as myself.
So my message to Stay-at-home moms is simple. You don't have to pretend to be important. You already are -- you just need to believe it.