Denise Abbott, a mom of a 13-year-old, decided to punish her daughter on Facebook to teach her a lesson. She changed her daughter's Facebook profile page showing her daughter with a red "X" across her mouth. It also has the quote: "I do not know how to keep my mouth shut. I am no longer allowed on Facebook or my phone. Please ask why. My mom says I have to answer everyone that asks." This was posted on KETK.
When people ask about the post, Denise's daughter Ava needs to write everyone back. Her e-mail response, "I feel like I deserved it because I was mean to my mom and spoke disrespectful to her in front of my friends. Facebook is a big part of my social life and it's how me and my friends find out what is going on and making plans and about school work and projects. It made me realize that I didn't want my picture on there like that because all of my friends were asking me what happened and what I did. I told the people that asked me and my mom why that I spoke to my mom mean when she was doing nice stuff for me and my friends. I know my mom always makes sure I don't get away with stuff like that and I was sorry. Thank you, Ava"
I find this ridiculous behavior by the parent. When will parents figure out that going down to your child's level and punishing them in a public way isn't the best avenue for success. They may value Facebook and their friends, but that's their domain. That is their world. Stay out of it and try to figure out a way to parent without public humiliation. It's a lot more difficult to find an appropriate punishment and actually stick with it, than to act like a child and try to "get back" at them for being mean to you.
Guess what Mrs. Abbott - you signed up to be a parent. There is no easy 'click of a button' way out of it.
I don't know how everyone else grew up, but in our house, once you left that front door, you had each other's back. You were a family and you were to support each other no matter what was going on at home.
There are parents today that seemed to have missed the memo on how to use Facebook. Not too long ago I wrote about a dad who shot his daughter's laptop out of anger. Facebook is a social media site for people to interact. NOT a place where you can humiliate your child.
I'll be the first to admit that parenting teens is an incredibly difficult job. I still don't have all the answers and don't always know the exact way to correct poor behavior, but I do know that I'm not going to act like a teenager when doling out punishments.
The way I see it, Facebook is kind of like alcohol. We don't let our kids drink it until they're old enough and mature enough to know how to use it. Maybe we shouldn't let parents use Facebook until they're wise enough and mature enough to know how to use it.