Have you seen the movie The Vow? I'll spare you the details, but the basic premise is Channing Tatum marries Rachel McAdams, she gets in a car accident and loses all memories of her husband. This is all based on a true story, and Channing does his best to make Rachel remember their love.
Using that as a premise, I had some incredibly interesting conversations with girlfriends over the weekend. We're all well down the road of being married and having established lives. We posed the question, if right now, you were able to change your life completely, without having to worry about the carnage you might leave behind, would you do it? The immediate answer from everyone was they love their life and wouldn't change a thing.
Yeah, right. It took about 20 minutes of conversation until one of the ladies admitted she would jump at the chance at having amnesia. She felt stale, and looked at her husband and life in a rather hum drum kind of way. Waking up to laundry and PB&J sandwiches has lost it's appeal. Her marriage flame has fizzled out. To wake up, forget it all and be able to start fresh was just too good of an offer.
All she had to do was open the door, and the real discussions started to flow. Another woman said matter of factly, I'd leave my husband in a heartbeat. She made a simple laundry list. He's gotten fat, doesn't care about anything that's beyond a 3 foot radius of the couch, he has a dead end job and is losing his hair. She thinks he's a shell of the man she married and if she could 'get out of jail' without any guilt, she would.
Personally, I think it's pretty easy to get sucked into the fantasy of what life could be like. But is the grass always greener? That's one of the best things about facebook. It's easy to get a glimpse at what life could have been like. Most of us are FB friends with "the one(s) that got away". When you click on their page and look at how they turned out, or get a snapshot look into their lives, are you filled with regrets, or relief?
I'm thrilled to be on the relief end, but what a sad life it must be to look back and only see regrets. There are definitely things I wish I would have done differently, but if you're living a life full of wishing it was something different, then change it now. You're in charge of your destiny. No one is giving you the get out of jail free card. If you get smashed by a truck, odds are you're not going to just get amnesia. It'll be much worse, so don't sit back and wait for life to take a turn on it's own. Fix it yourself. You don't need a card.
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Kirby, i couldn't agree more. Good topic for discussions, makes you really think about your life and be grateful.
Thank you for the feedback. It really did open up some interesting conversations. I really was surprised by some responses. I think if more people were able to change their grass, they'd find it wasn't greener!