With the fast approaching New Year, it's a great time to reflect on what we did right and what we did wrong. It's very easy to look back on our youth and think about all the things we would have done differently.
It's hard to look at a more finite period of time and figure out what the good, the bad and the ugly was. But I feel if we force ourselves to evaluate yearly, that's the only way we're going to make conscious choices that guide our lives differently. Of course I'm going to lose weight and get healthy... isn't everyone? But these are my concrete things I'm going to work on in 2012:
- I wasted too much of my time on people that didn't really matter to me. I worried about what others thought that really had no impact on my life.
- The reverse of that is I didn't put the time and effort into the people that I think are pretty awesome. I need to change that too. Did you attend some holiday party in the last few weeks and get engrossed in a conversation with someone, or see an old friend that you run into once a year and at the end of the night, make promises to do more in the future together? You secretly know you're never going to talk to them until next year, but if they make you feel great after you leave, that's the people we need in our lives more often! I'm going to call them.
- I'm terrible at recognizing birthday's. I always have been. I'm not sure where this came from, but if no one ever recognized my birthday, and it was just another day, I'd be thrilled. I don't want the attention. So my warped mind thinks that other people feel like that too. Truth is, most people love birthdays and are incredibly hurt when they aren't remembered properly. Going to work on that.
- Limit the online world contact. For the life I lead right now, I love that my smart phone allows me to have friends around while I'm waiting to pick someone up, or waiting for the next game to start. But I have to wonder if I wasn't staring at my phone, would I be using that time to make valuable contact with the person sitting next to me? I'm not sure, but I think I need to spend more time in the real world and limit my virtual one.
Those are just the tip of the iceberg, but I consider it a good running start. As I look back, it pretty much revolves around building solid relationships. My stream of consciousness didn't even produce one thing about being a better spouse or parent. Hmmm, must be pretty darn perfect in those areas. Yep, it's going to be a great 2012.
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