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There is no "normal" grief

There is no "normal" grief
Since I’ve been relocated to the cancer community, I’ve had more encounters with grief than I imagined were possible. This is what I’ve learned: Grief is a journey. It isn’t a process. It doesn’t have stages. And, there is no “normal” way to grieve. In some part of my brain, I must have known that... Read more »

5 things people with cancer need from their caregivers

I’ve never been a caregiver for someone with cancer. I’ve only been the one receiving the care and needing it. However, one thing I’m pretty sure about is that people with a brand spanking new diagnosis have very little idea about what they need. I needed attention. I wanted to be left alone. I wanted... Read more »

Traveling and cancer: everywhere I go, there you are

Traveling and cancer: everywhere I go, there you are
Traveling and cancer don’t go together very well. Some of my friends will have ongoing treatments for a long time, frequent blood tests and scans. Leaving their web of physicians and caregivers can be frightening and, even, risky. I’ve always been glad that the folks I know who love to travel work things out. MK... Read more »
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Kyrie Eleison: In the Catacombes de Paris

Kyrie Eleison: In the Catacombes de Paris
I’ve been on vacation for the past couple of weeks, last week in Paris. My daughter and I waited for 2 hours and 45 minutes to get into the Catacombes de Paris, a site that we’d missed the last time we visited and were determined to see this time. The line circled the block, tempers... Read more »

Q&A with a ChicagoNow blogger: Music Mom finds "happy" on her musical discovery

Q&A with a ChicagoNow blogger: Music Mom finds "happy" on her musical discovery
Today, fifty or so ChicagoNow bloggers are publishing interviews we’ve done with each other. Not only did I get to interview Music Mom’s Anne Kiplinger, but I got to meet her and to find some songs to add to my playlist. I interviewed Anne Kiplinger on a spectacular June day. I read somewhere that people... Read more »

Bowe Bergdahl is home: a plea for mercy

Bowe Bergdahl is home: a plea for mercy
Bowe Bergdahl returned to the United States early this morning. He is now in Texas, thousands of miles away from his Taliban prison and a lifetime away from his life as a soldier in the 501st Infantry Regiment, 4th Brigade Combat Team, 25th Infantry Division. I know nothing about Bergdahl except what I have seen and read in the... Read more »
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Reason #695 why I love my family

Reason #695 why I love my family
Ever since being diagnosed with cancer, I’ve found transitions hard. Actually, I’ve always found transitions hard, but since cancer they’ve become much harder. I somehow end up dwelling much more on endings and on loss than I do on beginnings. Cancer is all about loss or about fearing it. And you do, inevitably, lose so... Read more »

The war metaphor and the bloodsport of hating Gwyneth Paltrow

The war metaphor and the bloodsport of hating Gwyneth Paltrow
We use war metaphors every day. We say that we’ve declared war on cancer. When someone is angry at work, we hear, “This is war.” It is woven throughout our language. “You may win the battle, but lose the war.” “Choose your battles.” “It’s a war of words.” We fight and struggle, campaign and crusade. And we compare... Read more »

David Servan-Schreiber didn't believe in false hopelessness

David Servan-Schreiber didn't believe in false hopelessness
David Servan-Schreiber died 13 months before I was diagnosed with cancer. He was 50 years old when he died from a brain tumor, the third time a tumor had appeared. His death seems so sad  because he was there for me in the days after my treatment began. He pushed the sun back up above... Read more »
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People who attempt suicide say, "I'm glad I didn't die"

People who attempt suicide say, "I'm glad I didn't die"
When I was about 15 years old, I wandered into my parents’ bathroom and found my mom sitting on the floor with a handful of pills. I startled her and she was horrified. I don’t think we ever talked about it, and I don’t recall talking about it with anyone else until years later with... Read more »