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Life in the slow lane

Life in the slow lane
This is part of ChicagoNow’s This Blogger’s Life series, “Seeing the Other Side” You know how irritating it is to be in a hurry and get stuck behind someone who is shuffling or ambling? Maybe you don’t get irritated by slow pokes, but I’m a person who moves at the speed of sound. In the... Read more »

David Gray comes to Chicago: Ain’t this life so sweet

David Gray comes to Chicago: Ain’t this life so sweet
I won’t lie to you. If it were up to me David Gray would be put into a perfect room with a piano, a guitar and a small group of devoted fans. That sweet, true voice would fill the room and we’d hear every word he sang. We’d move up and down the scale of... Read more »

The privilege of a mother-in-law

The privilege of a mother-in-law
My mother-in-law is, without doubt, the most important woman in my adult life. Whether its cooking or parenting, aging or coping, I’ve been watching my mother-in-law for more than 20 years and learning from her about how to be an adult Some days I think I’ve definitely learned a thing or two. Other days I... Read more »
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Reaching out one more time

Reaching out one more time
I haven’t been writing much for this blog in the past month. It’s summer, which usually means more time to write and think and gather information that I hope can help folks. I’ve had a hard time writing, though, because I’ve been weighed down by life. There aren’t many good things about cancer. Actually there... Read more »

Thank you to the first responders

My friend Brenda posted on Facebook the other day that her firefighter husband had helped save a life. He and his shift at the Oklahoma City Fire Department were first responders on a call. Darryn performed CPR and kept a man, a father, on the earth for at least another day. Most people don’t run toward emergencies... Read more »

Weeds among the bricks

Weeds among the bricks
On a good day, when I see a dust ball next to my couch I immediately vacuum it up. On a bad day, like today, I despair at the vast imperfections of the world. On days like today I notice the cat hair that has accumulated on the bottoms of the dining room chair legs... Read more »
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There is no "normal" grief

There is no "normal" grief
Since I’ve been relocated to the cancer community, I’ve had more encounters with grief than I imagined were possible. This is what I’ve learned: Grief is a journey. It isn’t a process. It doesn’t have stages. And, there is no “normal” way to grieve. In some part of my brain, I must have known that... Read more »

5 things people with cancer need from their caregivers

I’ve never been a caregiver for someone with cancer. I’ve only been the one receiving the care and needing it. However, one thing I’m pretty sure about is that people with a brand spanking new diagnosis have very little idea about what they need. I needed attention. I wanted to be left alone. I wanted... Read more »

Traveling and cancer: everywhere I go, there you are

Traveling and cancer: everywhere I go, there you are
Traveling and cancer don’t go together very well. Some of my friends will have ongoing treatments for a long time, frequent blood tests and scans. Leaving their web of physicians and caregivers can be frightening and, even, risky. I’ve always been glad that the folks I know who love to travel work things out. MK... Read more »
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Kyrie Eleison: In the Catacombes de Paris

Kyrie Eleison: In the Catacombes de Paris
I’ve been on vacation for the past couple of weeks, last week in Paris. My daughter and I waited for 2 hours and 45 minutes to get into the Catacombes de Paris, a site that we’d missed the last time we visited and were determined to see this time. The line circled the block, tempers... Read more »