Archive for May 2020

This is how to stop the rioting: white people must fight for justice because Black Lives Matter

Martin Luther King Jr said, “A riot is the language of the unheard.” The language that is unheard seems all too often, “I can’t breathe.” It is kneeling on one knee during the national anthem. It is hundreds of marchers saying, “Black lives matter.” It is raising arms above your head and begging, “Don’t shoot.”... Read more »

May you be happy. May you be safe. Lovingkindness in a pandemic.

I’m not exactly an optimist. Not really a fully committed pessimist either. Somewhere in the gray space in between. I want to believe in the best and sometimes I succeed. When depression descends I can see only the worst. Most days I waver between the two. I try hard to be rational, though I know... Read more »

"How to be Miserable" during a pandemic

I’ve written about this book before here. It’s a book that changed my life. You hear a lot about positivity and gratitude, both valuable and honorable qualities. But, they’re qualities that have a dark side. When I’m not in a positive state of mind or not in tune with positivity, I feel guilty, even ashamed.... Read more »
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Finding comfort in a troubled time

When my daughter was little she loved her pacifiers. They went with her everywhere. At bedtime after stories she’d get three of them. One for her mouth and the other two in her little toddler hands rubbing them against her eyes. I saved three of them and keep them in a drawer in my kitchen.... Read more »

Ten good things while sheltering in place

Thanks to Donna, who inspired this post. My neighborhood is friendlier My neighbors down the block have built a fire pit. From what I gather as I shamelessly eavesdrop, it’s built into the ground. Their two kids, one just graduated from high school and the other a college student, are home with them. Just about... Read more »

The "uncanny valley" and the grocery store: feeling reality recede

The "uncanny valley" and the grocery store: feeling reality recede
I’ve been trying to process why grocery shopping leaves me feeling in turns anxious and hopeless. Each time I go out, and I feel a compulsion to go any time we get close to running out of something, I come home feeling beaten up by life. My daughter has told me about the “uncanny valley,”... Read more »
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For our GSU 2020 graduates, in the time of the Corona virus

For our GSU 2020 graduates, in the time of the Corona virus
This graduation isn’t like others. We’re all tucked into our homes, cooking, working out, creating….or not. We might be sitting on the couch, curled up watching Netflix and eating cookies, bored but unable to muster the energy to do much else. Maybe we’re depressed, anxious, afraid. Those of you with school-aged children are your child’s... Read more »

In memory of my grandmother on mother’s day

In memory of my grandmother on mother’s day
My grandmother once blew up an oven. She left the gas running while she went in search of matches to light the pilot. She eventually found the matches and put her head in the oven to light it. Ka-bam! It wasn’t a big explosion, but still dramatic. It sort of sums up her role as... Read more »

Cop coffees with my daughter: life in a time of distance

Cop coffees with my daughter: life in a time of distance
Inspired by my dear friend and fellow writer Shannan You know how in cop shows, the detectives or patrolmen meet up in their cars, driver’s window to driver’s window? They talk about leads and then speed off to crime scenes. It’s always seemed so cool to me. I don’t remember whose idea it was, but... Read more »
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