Archive for May 2016

For my daughter, on her graduation from high school

For my daughter, on her graduation from high school
When you were born there were so many things I didn’t know. I didn’t know that love would feel like fear, that the two would intertwine, with anxiety and worry wrapped around the thick stalk of love. I feared the universe would harm you, and if the universe harmed you, then I would disintegrate. I... Read more »

Does smoking cause bladder cancer? Well, that depends on why you’re asking

The easy, obvious answer is, yes, of course smoking causes bladder cancer. Consider these two statistics: smokers are three times more likely to get bladder cancer than nonsmokers and 50 percent of all bladder cancers are likely caused by smoking. (See this report from the National Institutes of Health.) That’s the easy, obvious answer. The... Read more »

Five reasons you should write if you have cancer

Five reasons you should write if you have cancer
I had been wanting to start a blog for several years when I was diagnosed with cancer in August of 2012. I was torn about it. Although I’ve always been a writer, and lord knows I have too much to say, I felt that I didn’t have a good theme or topic for a blog.... Read more »
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In praise of mothers not our own

In praise of mothers not our own
When my daughter was in third grade, she came home and said, “I wish you were more like Seneca’s mom.” It stung a little bit, but only just a little. Seneca’s mom, Ann, is such a lovely woman, the kind of person you’re glad to bump into. She’s warm and present and energetic. She is... Read more »

Forgiving you is my work; the rest is up to you

Forgiving you is my work; the rest is up to you
My mom died as a result of a doctor error during an outpatient gall bladder surgery. I’ve written about it here and here. The doc, I call her Dr. Smith, lost surgical privileges for about five years, except for breast surgery. Two things about this bother me: “five years” and “except for breast surgery.” I’ve... Read more »

Bladder cancer changes you: this is why I walk (Amp Up!)

Bladder cancer changes you: this is why I walk (Amp Up!)
I was diagnosed with bladder cancer on August 29, 2012. My life will never be the same as it was before. I will never again assume the ground beneath me is solid, and I will never again believe “it can’t happen to me.” This is how I knew I had a problem: blood, and lots... Read more »
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