Archive for February 2013

Not everyone with cancer is bald

Not everyone with cancer is bald
When I thought of cancer before I was diagnosed, I thought of people who looked frail, had lost their hair, who were visibly ill. But, not everyone with cancer is bald. One thing I love about the New York Times project, “Picture Your Life After Cancer,” is the variety and diversity of the people in... Read more »

Talking to my doctor: I'm much, much more than a bladder with cancer

Talking to my doctor: I'm much, much more than a bladder with cancer
I struggle with talking to my doctor. My urologist has seen me at some of the worst moments of my life. If first impressions are the most lasting, then his enduring image is of a woman in a hospital bed, wearing a hospital gown, attached to an IV and a catheter, scared witless and pretty much... Read more »

Cancer is a journey: "Words matter, people."

Cancer is a journey: "Words matter, people."
All of us in the community of people whose lives are directly affected by cancer think about and care about the words we use to talk about cancer. These words and metaphors put a frame around our experiences and help us imagine how to live and how to be. On Tuesday, Mary Tyler Mom, an... Read more »
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Our response to cancer is the gift

Our response to cancer is the gift
A friend asked me the other day, “Who ever said that cancer was a gift?” You might be surprised how many times I’ve heard this. I hear it most often from people with cancer in the context of conversations about how much they’ve learned or grown since they were diagnosed. Cancer has given them some... Read more »

Any kind of cancer is a big deal

I participate in an online support group for people with bladder cancer. Today Angela posted, “When I tell someone I have bladder cancer their reply is ‘Well that’s no big deal. If you’re ever going to get cancer that’s the best one to get.’” Reading that–I can’t even imagine hearing it–is like running headlong into... Read more »

Why did I get cancer when there are so many others more deserving?

Among the most common comments that I hear from people who have been diagnosed with cancer is, “Why me?” One of the most common comments I heard in the hospital as I was being diagnosed with cancer was, “Why you?” Well, the docs didn’t actually ask, “Why you?” What they really asked was, “Do you... Read more »
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My name is Writingprof and I have bladder cancer

I attend a support group at the Cancer Support Center in Homewood, IL. When we have a new person visit the group, the usual protocol is to go around the room and introduce ourselves. It always stands me still. A friend of mine, Betsy, died of breast cancer when she was 41. When we were... Read more »