Reducing Drama & Conflict in Your Home

Over the past few weeks, Bulldog Solution has been running professional development trainings and presentations. We got a big push to educate principals and teachers about drama and bullying.  As parents, it is important to understand the difference, so you can approach the situation with the best strategy. Below is the definition of drama and the negative behaviors that surrounds it. I then put together a new strategy to help parents reduce these negative behaviors in their homes.

Drama is the combination of rumors, gossip, and teasing in conflict situations between individuals or groups. Drama is not bullying because there is not a power difference between groups or the individuals. With drama, the person being targeted is retaliating or fighting back. If there is no fighting or retaliation, then the situation displayed is considered bullying.

  • Teasing is when one person is making fun of another person. There are different types of teasing: good teasing, bad teasing, and unintentional teasing.
  • Gossip and rumors are when people share private or false information about an individual with the intent to spread the knowledge.


Strategy: Set boundaries in your home around teasing, gossip, and rumors. Make a list of things that will not be tolerated in your home. Talk about the list, set consequences, and follow through.

A Drama Free Home


  • Everyday say something nice to someone in your family
  • Always say please and thank you
  • When you are arguing with someone you can walk away before saying something mean
  • Apologize after an argument and be sincere
  • Talk to mom or dad when you are upset or when your feelings are hurt
  • It is ok to say: "This hurts my feelings." "Stop teasing me, I don't think it is funny."


  • It is not ok to tease your brother or sister about their looks, weight, grades, failures, or embarrassing moments
  • It is unacceptable to call them mean names such as fat, ugly, stupid...
  • It is not ok to call your brother or sister names when you are fighting
  • It is not ok to spread rumors about friends, classmates, or siblings
  • It is unacceptable to post inappropriate things about anyone online
  • It is not ok to say bad things or make up lies about someone else.
  • It is unacceptable to yell back at mom or dad


If someone in this household hears or sees any of the behaviors above, the following consequences will occur

  • Write an apology letter 
  • Come up with 5 ways to change the behavior
  • Practice the new behaviors with mom or dad
  • Spend a day or afternoon volunteering
  • Do a research project on consequences of teasing, gossip, and rumor

This is just an idea of what you can put on the list. Think about how your family operates and what would be the best way to teach your kids about these things. When you can reduce drama you often can prevent bullying.

Until Next Time...

Kortney Peagram
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