Avoiding Divorce through Change

For example, a gentle "Will you help me?," referring to help about an addiction, a spending pattern or a serious disagreement are words that should evoke a more desired response than do the accusations, "You have a problem" or "You have to change."  Changing your reactions to your spouse are decisions you make if you decide you'd rather stay than go.

One of our potential new clients at the law firm was an urban indoor spa kind of girl.  She married a rugged outdoorsman.  Neither one of them was "happy."  One day after some counseling and introspection, she simply decided to stop "hating" his hunting and fishing hobbies and join him -- at least occasionally.  He so appreciated her company that he, in turn, began booking his outdoor excursions only in areas adjacent to a spa or resort where they would spend the last night.  Needless to say, she never became our client, and she dropped me a note later saying her life had actually become more adventurous.