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It's OK to Walk Away

Walking away is a cognitive and purposeful act that does not require emotional closure (although it is easier if you find emotional closure first).  Walking away requires you to first look at yourself and take responsibility for the role you played in the situation.  After taking responsibility, you can begin to set boundaries for yourself and make changes in your behavior and attitude.  These actions can make your decision to walk away more clear and easier to do. 
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Are You Flaky?

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Selecting a School for Your High Achieving Child


High achieving parents usually look for opportunities and resources that can benefit their children.  Education and health are usually the main two areas of focus for parents.  Today's blog will focus on helping you find the most affordable, high quality education for your child.
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Dealing with Emotional Ups and Downs

Good days and bad days, we all have them.  The question becomes, "How do you handle the emotional ups and downs that come with good and bad days?"   Here are some tips that can help you enjoy the good days even more and get through the bad days without letting them keep you down.  

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I Saw Her ...

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I walked passed her and she was sleeping.  People asked her to wake up and she, irritated, told them to leave her alone.  Everyone seemed to know her and her pattern - "She'll be fine.  She's coming off her high now - crack, cocaine, and alcohol."  said one woman.  I couldn't help myself so I stopped to ask her if she was alright or needed anything.  She rolled her eyes at me and told me to go away. 

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Big Girl Panties ... Do YOU Have a Pair?

When I first heard the phrase 'Big Girl Panties' I was talking with a colleague about how anxious they became when they HAD to deal with a situation they preferred to avoid.  I was surprised at the level of their anxiety because they were usually very calm whenever I saw them.  As we were winding up our coffee, they said to me, "Well, I have to get ready to leave.  I guess I should put on my 'Big Girl Panties' so I can be ready!"
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Are You Socially Challenged?

How many of you interact with individuals who are really smart or competent but have poor interpersonal skills?  On the other hand, how many of you are considered by others to be the one who is 'Socially Challenged"?  Here are a few tips to dealing with both sides of the dilemma.
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Office Politics - Survival of the Savvy

Political savvy is a vital competence for any executive, but it's not taught in leadership or grad school courses.  In fact, the term "office politics" has received a bad rap.  (Words like "Machiavellian,""manipulative" and "conspiratorial" come to mind.)

Tales of political sabotage, power plays and turf wars are part of any organization's history.  Nonetheless, political competence is the one skill everyone wishes to have more of--but no one talks about it.

Until recently, few books explained how to use political competence to build one's career, improve a team's results or boost the company's bottom line.  Samuel B. Bacharach, director of Cornell University's Institute for Workplace Studies, recently published Get Them on Your Side.  Rick Brandon and Marty Seldman have written Survival of the Savvy: High-Integrity Political Tactics for Career and Company Success.  Art Kleiner weighs in with Who Really Matters: The Core Group Theory of Power, Privilege, and Success.

Political competence is the "ability to understand what you can and cannot control, when to take action, who is going to resist your agenda, and whom you need on your side.  It's about knowing how to map the political terrain and get others on your side, as well as lead coalitions," according to Prof. Bacharach.

Many individuals have good ideas that, if implemented, could yield positive results for their companies.  Sometimes, these ideas fall flat because the leaders who propose them cannot gain support from key people.
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When You or Someone You Know Needs Help ...

In the wake of the horrific events in Tuscon, I thought I would share the following with you from Mental Health Pros.

You know things are not going right in your life. Your emotions are overwhelming; your relationships are plagued with difficulties; your behavior is creating chaos.

When people are suffering, they want to know what's wrong with them. Receiving a proper diagnosis is a crucial first step on the road to improvement. After all, if no one knows what the problem is, how can it be fixed?

To receive a proper diagnosis, and successfully deal with it, there are several important facts you need to know.

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Mommy & Daddy Issues ...

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When we are adults, we often cringe the first time we utter the words, "I've become my mother!" or "I sound just like my father!"  I mean, who hasn't realized on their own or have been told by someone that they are turning into one, or both, of their parents?  Yikes!

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Carol Moseley Braun - Resilient, Smart or Something Else?

Being in business and politics can be akin to playing football with no protective gear - especially when things get nasty.  But that hasn't scared Carol Moseley Braun - not in the least.  She is clearly a high achiever and has a goal - to be the Mayor of Chicago.  And, while I am 'GIRL POWER' all the way, I wonder what her strategy for mental preparation is as she runs for Mayor of Chicago. 
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Free Master's Degree?

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When I heard that you can get a FREE Master's Degree, I thought, "Yeah, right.  There is no such thing as FREE."  Then I spoke with Tanesha Pittman, Executive Director at Benedictine University Moser College of Adult and Professional Studies, and she confirmed it - they have a very limited number of partial and full scholarships for women who would like to pursue a Master's of Science in Leadership degree!

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I Don't Like You

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We have all come across people who rub us the wrong way.  While some of us accept them for who they are and move on with our lives, others remain irritated with and fixated on how much and why they dislike them.  In any event, by the time we have concluded we do not like someone, a number of our buttons have been pushed and a host of unconscious meanings and associations made.  I posit that when we find ourselves not liking someone, we really don't like something about ourselves.
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