Hey Anna,
So this girl I went out with on a successful first date two days ago is now hounding me to know if I want to go out again. I think I probably do, but am busy and want the ability to not answer for a few days, which feels rude since she keeps asking. It's kind of a turn off. How long should I wait? Am I over-reacting? What should I do!?
~Easy Does It
Dear Easy,
Wait, I think I know this formula. It's 3 days, subtract one day for each time you orgasmed, divide by the amount of quantifiable shame you feel about your life, then add in millimeters the length of Donald Trump's comb-over. That should give you an approximate time frame for asking someone on a second date. Unless you're Donald Trump, in which case, "You said you'd call, mi amor!"
Of course there's no golden rule, but as a general guideline, it depends on how interested you are in said girl. In this case, I'd put your answer somewhere in the arena of "not so much." It's not rude of you to want to take your time and think things through, however, since she's already asked you (more than once), it's in your best interest to respond sooner rather than later. Why? Well, as ye old playa, Robert Herrick, once wrote:
"Gather ye rosebuds while ye may,
Old Time is still a-flying:
And this same flower that smiles to-day
To-morrow will be dying."
Meaning if you wait too long, you won't get any ass, obviously.
There are several ways to communicate your interest (or lack thereof) in this year of our Lord 2009: phone, text, Facebook status update, g-chat, email, reading tea leaves, winged chariot, and on and on. Regardless of the route you pursue, make it brief and let her know what kind of schedule you have, even going so far as to say you're only available one or two days a week. Setting up your boundaries in advance lets her know that she's not getting the brush off but also that you don't have the time to be sending Some e-cards back and forth with her all day and sighing into space.
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