The set-up: Several celebrity couples have announced break-ups in recent weeks.
The question: How do you know when it's time to break-up?
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Fergie and Josh Duhamel. (AP)
- You're drifting apart. The two of you used to talk five times a day and see each other every night. Now, thank God for Caller ID, because you hardly recognize his voice.
- Your fights are frequent, ridiculous and dirty. Does he realize how annoying his breathing patterns are? Well, you're going to tell him, and suggest that it's probably a result of poor home training.
- No nookie. You've had a month-long headache.
- You have nothing nice to say. Your friends are tired of your endless complaints, and they wonder why you're still together.
- Outside attractions. You frequently notice other men. Where did all of these cute boys come from, all of a sudden? If only you were single.
JENNI: Cheating (or a strong desire to stray) is high up on the list of reasons to break up. Let's take actor Josh Duhamel and his alleged dalliance with a stripper. Personally, I think it's just dandy if someone in a committed relationship takes a fistful of dollars to an exotic-dance establishment for a night of giggles and jiggles. However, if he was in fact doing so with the intention of eventual betraying his Fergalicious wife, then Dumbass Duhamel was out of line. If you can't stop thinking of other ladies' lady parts--unless the both of you have agreed on maintaining an open relationship--you should have the guts to call it quits.
UPTOWN GRRRL JENNI SPINNER IS A REDEYE SPECIAL CONTRIBUTOR.
KYRA: In my unsolicited (hey wait, it was solicited) opinion, you know when it's time to go. You may not want to accept it, but it's obvious when your relationship--like Tara Reid's career--is over. Here are three official signs of relationship apocalypse:
- The sound of the other person's voice makes you cringe.
- You cannot imagine yourself with the person for another year, let alone the rest of your life. (Hanging with badly matched married couples is a known trigger for this stay-or-go gut feeling.)
- During heated or even lukewarm arguments, your mind is saying "Why bother? Let's just end this." Then one day, your mouth follows suit.
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AdamH said:
Usually I ignore stuff like this but this time I just felt I had to comment. You people have no business giving relationship advice to anyone. Some of the things I read above are just silly. So if you don't talk 5 times a day and you don't see each other every night then you need to break up? See any correlation between that and later on the sound of the other person's voice makes you cringe? How about that and the other point about you cannot imagine yourself with the person for another year?
I am sorry but if you think that seeing each other every night and talking to each other 5 times a day constitutes a relationship then you need to get a life. Because after you leave or the other person leaves you'll both realize that neither of you have one.
That however is not the worst of it. This dumb excerpt takes the cake:
Personally, I think it's just dandy if someone in a committed relationship takes a fistful of dollars to an exotic-dance establishment for a night of giggles and jiggles. However, if he was in fact doing so with the intention of eventual betraying his Fergalicious wife, then Dumbass Duhamel was out of line. If you can't stop thinking of other ladies' lady parts--unless the both of you have agreed on maintaining an open relationship--you should have the guts to call it quits.
Let me get this straight....You think it is okay for a woman to let her man (husband or committed boyfriend) go out to a strip club and then you are surprised when some of them cheat? Give your head a shake. Why would any woman allow such a thing? If the issue is that he might leave if you don't let him have his "freedom" then I say let the loser leave. Let's take Fergie as an example. What would have been worse? In the dating stage Fergie tells Josh he can't go to strip clubs and he dumps her or Fergie allowing him to do so and they get married and then he cheats on her with a stripper? Ladies if you are in a committed relationship with a man and he still wants to go to strip clubs then that is a HUGE RED FLAG. Dump his ass and find a good guy. If my girlfriend told me that it was ok for me to go to strip clubs then I would DUMP HER. If that is what she is letting me do then what does she expect me to let her do? Plus that is just low self esteem. I don't care what anyone says. Deep down a woman can't feel good about her man going to strip clubs and getting his jollies off of naked strangers. You have to ask yourself, "Would a man who is deeply in love with his wife or girlfriend even want to go to strip clubs?" Here is an even easier question. Who do you think loves his wife more; the guy who frequents strip clubs or the guy who would never go to one because he knows that would hurt his wife?
If your man wants to go to strip clubs then there is a problem with your relationship and indulging him by letting him go is not going to help. That my friends, is the ugly truth.
deandrey duffie said:
well the previous comment just about summed evey thing up. I THINK EVERY BODY Entitled their own opinion but me myself personally think that if youare not happy then you already know that things arent going to work so why waste your time dont beat around the bush just let the other person know thats it not working and they can even straighten up their act or get off the pot and let some one else sit on like they say theirsplenty fish in the see u just gotta catch one thats right for you.
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