The setup:
Do you tell your partner he or she is too fat for sex?
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Do you tell your partner he or she is too fat for sex?
Living with your significant other can increase your chances of gaining weight, which in turn can do a number on your sex life, RedEye reported this week.
The setup:
Do you tell your partner he or she is too fat for sex?
The setup:
Do you tell your partner he or she is too fat for sex?
Stephen Markley says:
Don't look at this as a bad thing. View it as an opportunity. What do you spend most of your dating life doing? You try to look good so you'll attract a partner, right? But once you have that partner and that partner starts to balloon, what the hell recourse do you have except to--finally!-- start eating at Panda Express every day for lunch. Just let yourself go, I say. Enjoy life. Stop wasting time working out, eating vegetables or breathing not laboriously. Eventually, you'll outpace your significant other in weight gain, and that'll show `em just what they're dealing with. It can be a race to find out who will blink first in the face of cardiovascular health issues.
Jenni Spinner says:
In the gay-gal community, this phenomenon is known as the lesbian spread. Two women partner up, then stop going out and stay in their "nest" watching "CSI:NY" reruns, hence their butts simultaneous expand. While there's no such thing as too doughy for doin' it, if you notice your partner's getting heavy, gentle nudges are the way to go. Proclaim that you'd like the both of youse to eat better, join a flag-football team, or pick up Wii Fit and make exercise a daily, fun joint activity. Don't go for the jugular and declare her too svelte to schtupp ... or you might never have sex again.
Jason Steele says:
Luckily my partner and I are both relatively in shape. I can't imagine what "too fat for sex" would be. Is it that you can't make the relevant parts connect or that one person is smothering the other during the act? If that is the case, I would hope that the larger person would notice this on his own. If not, then you have to make a decision: Do you love your partner unconditionally, even if he looks like a "Biggest Loser" contestant? Or do you give him an ultimatum: Shape up or ship out? If it does reach that point, both of you should get healthy together. Exercising is known to increase your libido anyway, so it's a win-win. Otherwise you both are going to go without sex, and then you'll both be big losers.
What would you do?
Don't look at this as a bad thing. View it as an opportunity. What do you spend most of your dating life doing? You try to look good so you'll attract a partner, right? But once you have that partner and that partner starts to balloon, what the hell recourse do you have except to--finally!-- start eating at Panda Express every day for lunch. Just let yourself go, I say. Enjoy life. Stop wasting time working out, eating vegetables or breathing not laboriously. Eventually, you'll outpace your significant other in weight gain, and that'll show `em just what they're dealing with. It can be a race to find out who will blink first in the face of cardiovascular health issues.
Jenni Spinner says:
In the gay-gal community, this phenomenon is known as the lesbian spread. Two women partner up, then stop going out and stay in their "nest" watching "CSI:NY" reruns, hence their butts simultaneous expand. While there's no such thing as too doughy for doin' it, if you notice your partner's getting heavy, gentle nudges are the way to go. Proclaim that you'd like the both of youse to eat better, join a flag-football team, or pick up Wii Fit and make exercise a daily, fun joint activity. Don't go for the jugular and declare her too svelte to schtupp ... or you might never have sex again.
Jason Steele says:
Luckily my partner and I are both relatively in shape. I can't imagine what "too fat for sex" would be. Is it that you can't make the relevant parts connect or that one person is smothering the other during the act? If that is the case, I would hope that the larger person would notice this on his own. If not, then you have to make a decision: Do you love your partner unconditionally, even if he looks like a "Biggest Loser" contestant? Or do you give him an ultimatum: Shape up or ship out? If it does reach that point, both of you should get healthy together. Exercising is known to increase your libido anyway, so it's a win-win. Otherwise you both are going to go without sex, and then you'll both be big losers.
What would you do?
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EatRightAroundChicago said:
As a registered dietitian, I like the advice to gently suggest eating well together, adding more exercise and avoiding the race to cardiovascular disease. That said, we all know that a good break-up is the quickest way to trim down. Ha!
But seriously, the real point is - Panda Express is never the answer.
Sincerely,
Jenna
Eat right around Chicago!
candacemichelle said:
Please, if you are unhappy with your partner's weight, break the news gently. My first boyfriend in college told me "I was too fat" when I asked why he didn't want to have sex as much, and I still remember how I felt. Ultimately I realized there was nothing wrong with my size(only gained 8lbs) and I happily embrace ice cream and Oreos todyay!
clomeli2 said:
Definitely don’t tell your partner straight up that he/she is fat! If that’s your partner you should have some sort of respect and not be rude about the situation. There needs to be some compassion and agreed with EatRightAroundChicago “gently suggest” women are already under a stress from society about weight the least person you want to hear it from is your partner (unless done with respect). The nicest way is suggesting to join her with the weight lose and healthier eating habits.
Jon said:
I find it repulsive that apparently some of the people here think that it's acceptable to make their partner feel bad about themselves to gratify their sexual vanity. If your partner is having an issue with obesity, it's entirely appropriate to try to help them work on things like diet and exercise, but it's THEIR choice. If you don't want to sleep with them, that's YOUR choice, but if someone has been in a positive, supporting relationship with you, you should respect them and support them in return!
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