Posted by Alexia Elejalde-Ruiz – 9:20 p.m., May 31
I have a CTA etiquette question.
When I boarded the Red Line this morning at Belmont, there were no empty rows, so I snagged one of the few remaining aisle seats. I sat beside a perfectly normal guy who was taking up a perfectly normal amount of room—which is to say, the sides of our bodies were pressed together, as happens in those little seats.
Everything was dandy until we got to North and Clybourn, and almost everyone on the train filed out. Suddenly, there were lots of empty rows. They were staring at me, almost begging me to stretch across them, tempting me with hope that I might put my gym bag on the seat beside me instead of on my lap.
But then I worried about the guy beside me. Would he be offended if I got up and moved away? Would he worry it was because I found him to be an undesirable seat-sharer? If I were to move, should I explain my actions?
On the other hand, what if he got annoyed that I didn’t move? Would he think I’m weird for staying so cozy when there’s so much space in the train?
And then: What if I move, and the train fills up at the next stop and someone just sits next to me again? How stupid would I look then?
Ridiculous, I admit. But I really didn’t know which was the polite way to go.
Of course, by the time I cycled through all of these thoughts, I’d arrived at my stop at Grand—three looong stops away from North and Clybourn—and I hadn’t moved. The guy probably would have preferred if I had, so he could have taken his backpack off HIS lap.
But I ask: What do you do when you have the option to abandon the person you’re sitting next to and move to an empty row?