Facebook Fridays with Arasia: Dating by the (Face)Book
Social networks are a great thing. They serve as a one stop shop for those that know how to use them---you can play games, catch up with former classmates and people you may have lost throughout your travels. You can even get the latest news, hear new music and get a date...
Yes, you read that correctly. I said, DATE.
Apparently, FB is the new "hot spot" for dates, hookups and doses of flirtation. Gone are the days of meeting someone at a club where your feet are stuck to the floor as you scream out your phone number, hoping the patron at the bar with the bad breath isn't writing it down. Forget about your friends introducing you to someone that's perfect to realize that they are better suited for a gorilla. And thank goodness for no more horrific blind dates with someone that looks like they live under a bridge.
But is this safe---after all, people are crazy. And doesn't this make us even more socially isolated than we already are? Could be but the fact of the matter is people are doing it by any means necessary. And these people that are looking for a companion, date or booty call are indeed aggressive-----just consider them the new party promoter. They send e-mails, hit you up on chat and even post sexual innuendo and "hints" on your wall. They will stop at nothing to get the ultimate goal---you followed by a good time.
Now I'm not for one for tooting my own horn but I've received several invitations to grab a drink, go out of town and other things I will let you create in your head from potential suitors on FB. I've received two marriage proposals and was offered to partake in a threesome. I guess this should be flattering to a degree but it disturbs me in several ways. Not because someone wants me to rub bellies with another woman but mainly because this is probably the only aspect of my life where I am old fashioned.
Have I dated people from meeting them on a social network? Yes, I have and I would probably still be open to it but my preference is encountering someone in the flesh. The thought of a confident man approaching and speaking to me like a lady gives me chills. And there is something intoxicating about looking into my eyes and seeing if we have chemistry in person--something you can't do behind a computer.
I often wonder what goes on in the minds of these people that use FB as a way to get a date. It makes perfect sense because it is a social network and it does offer an array of flavors from across the globe so why not right? And the average persons schedule is so overbooked, it seems like FB dating may be the way to go in terms of saving time and money. Why spend coins on dinner and a movie when we can chat for hours, send pictures and if you are really savvy---share a screen and watch a flick all from the comfort of your own home spending no more than your monthly internet bill that you pay anyway. Sounds like a winner right?
Well, it can be depending on your take on the proper way to get to know a person. But nevertheless, FB dating is alive and thriving and will only continue as long as people are getting lucky. So don't be shocked if you get propositioned while playing Farmville in rollers with Noxzema on your face. And don't act surprised if you get a peculiar picture in your inbox along with a cornball pick up line and 10 digits that can lead you to FB ecstasy.
So, how does your approach toward the opposite sex on Facebook differ from your approach in person? Have you accepted a date from someone on FB that you just met? Or do you feel harassed by those that use FB as their means of locating love and a little extra?
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aRaSia said:
Facebook dating is real interesting with its pros and cons. As a pro, since you aren't around them physically early on, you can actually get to know them more than you're focusing on sex so much early on. It's like you get to read the book before you can fully judge it by its cover. But at the same time, there's no real substitute for face-to-face interaction.
I think that when used the right way, it can be a great sort of preliminary process, and a way to learn about people before you begin to spend time with them. It's like the online personality test before the in-person interview, lol.
Good article Arasia. Funny, but real just like the last few you've done on here. Keep up the good work!
WEKetchum said:
Sorry, that last comment was me, @WEKetchum on Twitter...I was on her computer, and I accidentally commented as her without logging in on my own sn. Facebook Fridays Fail on my part, lol
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