Top Ten Geek Dating Tips

Posted at 2:05 p.m. - Thursday, February 12

Valentine's Day is just a couple days away and the nice folks at SoulGeek.Com have some special pointers for all you geeks and nerds who are hooking up for the first time with that fanboy/fangirl you just met in a chat room the other day:

1. Be proud of your geekdom and learn to love yourself. If you don’t like who you are, no one worthy is going to like you.
   
   
2. Trekkies and Star Wars geeks can live in harmony. Just don’t tease about the size of his light saber.
   
   
3. Sing it with me!  “R-E-S-P-E-C-T”! You must have it for your partner.  You must expect it from your partner. No matter how much or how well you can geek-out together, you cannot have healthy love without respect.
   
   
4. Now Padawan, the “pity card”, play it you never, never, NEVER will. Get tired of it quickly and leave, good people do. As like the Sith, those looking for a victim hone right in on pity.  In true solid love, pity has no part.
   
   
5. Never assume the cosplayer is just like the character they are cosplaying. NEVER assume the cosplayer IS the character they are cosplaying. Say it with me….it’s fiction… Fun fantasy is one thing. Weird obsession is another (not attractive) thing.
6. Don’t ever think you need to change yourself to attract a person. Being polite on a first date is fine, pretending you aren’t you isn’t. If they don’t like you for the wonderful person you are, they are not right for you. (No matter how cute they look in elf ears)
   
   
7. When your knees start knocking, remember: That geek of your dreams is probably just as nervous as you are, no matter how confident they look. It’s ok to be nervous, but don’t let fear rule you. Remember: I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. (Props to Frank Herbert!)
   
   
8. If you ask your girl to wear the Xena Warrior Princess outfit you bought her, she may say yes, but remember, you need to be willing to wear the Martian Manhunter costume….green body pain and all. It’s only fair.
   
   
9. Safety First. Remember that because you are meeting someone into the same nitch stuff as you, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t think of them as a stranger at first. Always think of your own safety in the “getting to know you” stages of dating, and if something seems wrong, act on that instinct. They might not be Randall Flagg, but do you really want to find out for sure?
   
   
10. While rings and flowers are lovely gifts, most geeks will appreciate something that costs less but taps into what they really love more. That rubber alien in a tube of goo? They might just think it’s the coolest thing since the X-files jumped the shark. Thought goes much further than cost. And if they’re  po’ed its not a gold necklace…maybe they need to check their priorities.

Now you can get even more tips from Sarah the SoulGeek Dating and Relationship Guru by visiting SoulGeek.com.