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All The Single Ladies is moving

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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If you follow me on Twitter, you know that I have been talking about an announcement over the past couple of days. If you don't follow me then get to it already. Well, the time has come to make my announcement (yeah, I know I kind of ruined it with the title of this blog).

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I am featured on Cupid's Pulse

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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It's no big secret that I recently turned 30. It's also no big secret that I felt pretty okay with being single on my birthday. In fact, I even wrote a whole list of reasons about why it's great to be single on your birthday. A lot of things have happened over the past few weeks and it has caused me to really think about a lot of things. Actually, for some reason, I thought about when I was 20 and how I saw my life at 30 then.

So, when the awesome folks over at Cupid's Pulse asked me to write a guest post about turning 30 and being single, I was completely thrilled (and highly flattered). Head on over there and check out my thoughts from a single 30-year-old.

Date Night Challenge Week 3: Things haven't gone the way I planned (yet)

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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So it's week three of the Date Night Challenge. And this week I actually had a date lined up. I say that like I am a little school girl or something but I was actually pretty excited. Frankly, there has been a shortage of really awesome guys asking me out on dates lately - I am not sure why that is.

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Ten reasons to be glad you are single on your birthday

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

Today is my birthday. If you know me in any way outside of this blog you already know that because a) I talk about it non-stop on Twitter and b) you were invited to the fantastic party that my best friend, @chicagodaniel is having for me.

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This birthday is kind of a big one and not just because I am turning 30 but because of the things that this birthday really means to me. I will talk more about that later but for the record, I do not think 30 is old in any way shape or form. In fact, there is not even a single part of me that is afraid to turn 30.

Anyway, when I met Mr. Google a while back I was very excited about him. He talked about coming to visit me and I told him he should save it for my birthday because I would need a date. Well, obviously I figured out some time ago that he was not going to be my date (thought we are actually friends now), but for a while there I still thought I would kind of like a date for my birthday. Truth be told (and I feel a little embarrassed here) but I really can't remember a time that I haven't been single on my birthday.

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Date Night Challenge from 123Underwear.com: Week 1

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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So the Date Night Challenge from 123Underwear.com is officially underway. Ever since my order arrived last week I have been extremely excited to actually wear what I chose. Yes, they sat in the box because I saved them for an actual date to wear them. After all, that is the point of the Date Night Challenge. Plus, I didn't want to let the newness wear off.

Technically the challenge was supposed to start with a coffee date this past Sunday but the date was rescheduled for last night. And it actually turned into drinks which seems more like a nighttime sort of thing anyway. Plus given all the other events of my weekend I didn't mind having an extra day.

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Win tickets to Miss Abigail's Guide to Dating, Mating & Marriage in New York City

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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I recently heard about a really awesome comedy show called Miss Abigail's Guide to Dating, Mating & Marriage that's going on in New York City. It sounds like it would be such a fun night out and I am incredibly bummed that I can't go.

Miss Abigail's Guide to Dating, Mating & Marriage is the story of Miss Abigail, the most popular relationship expert to the stars. It tells the tales of Miss Abigail and her sexy sidekick Paco, as they travel the world teaching her outrageously funny "how-to's" on dating, mating and marriage. The show stars Eve Plumb, aka "Jan" from The Brady Bunch and is produced by award-winning Broadway and Off-Broadway Producer Ken Davenport.

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The BreakUP Club

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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Break ups suck. I honestly tried to think of a really clever and creative way to word that, but let's face it there isn't one. Even if you see it coming. Even if you are the person who is ending the relationship. Even if you know there is not a shot at the relationship working. It doesn't matter, a break up is no fun at all.

That's why I am really excited to share a new project that Tristan Coopersmith (one of my favorite relationship coaches) is starting. The project is called the BreakUP Club and the idea is to turn a break up into something positive. It's a place where women can come together to get over a crappy break up in a very positive way.

Anyone who knows me can attest that I am far too positive for my own good so I am definitely a fan of this. Actually I am a little jealous I didn't think of it myself.

The BreakUP Club is offering a free workshop if you are in Los Angeles. Here are the details:

BreakUP Club Introductory Event
October 12, 2010
7:00pm-8:30pm
Blank Spaces
5405 Wilshire Blvd (b/w La Brea Blvd & Hauser Blvd)
Los Angeles, CA 90036

Are women too picky?

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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I've been thinking a lot lately about this whole idea that women are too picky. It's not a big secret that people often think women dump men for silly things like wearing white socks with black pants or brown shoes with a black shirt and so on. I've known many women like that and I can admit that there was once a time that I found myself saying things like that when I realized I was losing interest in a guy.

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Does it even matter if there is someone out there for everyone?

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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"Dear God, please bring me a boyfriend this year"

I was having a conversation with a friend the other day about my frustrations with dating. It's been quite a run with me and this whole dating thing. Frankly I just get a little annoyed when everything seems to end up the exact same way. And while it's something I know I could never give up on (it's just not me to really give up on much of anything), I still have to say that sometimes I wonder if it's really getting me anywhere.

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Guest Post: Apples to apples

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

I am officially back from New York which means it's time for a new post but first I want to share a guest post from a blogger that I was recently introduced to.

Disaster on Heels has been chronicling her single life in Chicago since she broke up with her boyfriend one year ago.  When she's not adding vitamins to Lean Cuisines to enhance nutritional value, she's having disastrous encounters on Match.com and OkCupid.  Today, in honor of the one year anniversary of her online dating profile, she has decided to celebrate with All the Single Ladies.

To keep up with the daily disaster, connect with Disaster on Heels on Twitter or on Facebook.   

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All The Single Ladies is invading New York City

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

I know I have slacked a little lately on this whole blogging thing but this has been one crazy (but very great) summer. The sad part is that I will be signing off, but only for a week because I am taking a trip. That's right folks, All The Single Ladies (or I guess technically the author of All The Single Ladies) is invading New York City.

I cannot even begin to describe how excited I am about this trip. And that's not just because it's been far too long since I have taken a trip or because it's New York City. Wait, who am I kidding? I am stoked for those reasons but also because I am getting the chance to meet a lot of truly fantastic people there and see a few friends I haven't seen in a while.

I will be back next weekend with a fun new post. I might have a few tales of my adventures while I was away to share and I will even have a really fantastic guest post. In the meantime, check out a few pictures from the last trip I took there. And wish me luck.

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It's called having sexual confidence

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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The other day, I was talking to a friend that I have known for a while. He doesn't live in Chicago so really we mostly trade e-mails back and forth. Occasionally his e-mails involve something to do with my blog since he reads it fairly regularly.

Anyway, we were discussing how some guys choose to approach me when they are "hitting" on me. He advised that I should be aware of my confidence and sexual aura (actually he flat out said to be careful how I use it). And also talked about how I blog about sex so maybe some guys get a certain idea about me.

I am not so sure how I feel about that. Actually, I entertained his ideas for a few moments and then thought to myself are you kidding me?

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Drinks and dudes: The date tracker

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

I mentioned a few weeks ago about my plan to start a new feature on my blog. Just as a little refresher, the idea was to go to some of the awesome bars in Chicago to check out the mingling potential. Well, last Friday the fun began and I'd like to say it was a pretty interesting time. Check out the recap.

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Catch All The Single Ladies on ChicagoNow Radio this Saturday

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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Tune in to WGN radio 720 AM this Saturday from 9:30am to 10:00 am to catch me on air with hosts Alex Quigley and Amy Guth.

What will I be talking about? Well, all things related to being single in Chicago and really single life in general of course. You might catch a few more details about my date with Mr. Google or I might even give you a sneak peek into my newest feature on my blog (which I am starting tonight). But you have to tune in to find out.

New weekly feature: The single lady blogger is shaking things up

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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You might have noticed that I didn't post any date ideas yesterday. And no, I did not forget about them nor am I a slacker. I have just decided to shake things up a little with a whole new weekly feature.

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What will it take for men to go to singles events?

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

Today's blog is a little something different, but that is because I am legitimately curious about something. So I am hoping all the single guys out there can help me out. Why is it that so few single guys go to singles events?

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Need to pretend to be committed? There's a ring for that

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

For anyone who is keeping count, we have established that I am not obsessed with marriage but that I want to fall in love. We have also established that I don't think a woman is ever really unmarried but that she can be single at any age. It would only seem fitting that last night while watching MTV, I would discover that someone has decided to make an entire business out of helping women pretend to be committed.

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When does a woman go from being single to unmarried?

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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A few days ago I posted about how I am not looking to just get married but to also fall in love. It was a post that was very personal to me and I felt good about it. Well apparently from an article I have seen bouncing around, I need to watch myself because I only have about a decade or so before I move from being single to being unmarried. Honestly, I wasn't even aware that there was a time that women went from being unmarried to single. Clearly you learn something new everyday,

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The 22-year-old approach to picking up an older woman

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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Will someone please tell me what the deal is with 22-year-old guys? Seriously, their approach to picking up women (mainly older women) just flat out sucks.

Anyone who knows me will tell you that I am not overly fond of guys that are younger than I am (actually I am not overly fond of guys my age either). I tend to be into those that are more in the 32 to 35 age range - with an even bigger preference for those that are even older. Honestly I have no idea why this is; it's just how I have always been. Clearly I would love to say it's because I have better luck with older guys, but I am not really sure if I can say that.

Point being that there is a pretty big age difference between 22 and 32, especially in man years. So yes, I get that it's an age thing. Though, it's something that seems to be a trend which makes me wonder. And I mean, even if it is a 22-year-old is it too hard to ask for a little respect here?

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Recap of the All The Single Ladies and Sex and the Windy City Singles Soiree

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

Well, the All The Single Ladies and Sex and the Windy City event was this past Saturday and I have to say it was a blast. Everyone drank, played games and mingled.

Thank you to everyone who came out to the event and to everyone who helped make the event possible.

And, of course, thank you again to all of our fantastic sponsors.

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All The Single Ladies and Sex and the Windy City are hosting a singles night!

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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Are you getting screwed? (Graphics by my friend Brian Van Hoosier)

With all the single people there are in Chicago, should meeting a guy or girl be that hard?

Well, apparently...it is!

ChicagoNow's dating, relationship and, sexpert bloggers, Jessica Downey from All the Single Ladies and Erin Keane from Sex and the Windy City want to take the guess work out of meeting new, interesting, dateable people.

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Dating is a privilege not a right (part 2): You are not a princess

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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The other day, I read an awesome post from Single City Guy called Women Aren't Entitled to Anything which really made me think about how there are some women that feel they are entitled to certain behavior from men. You know, the whole idea that men should pay for everything, buy them gifts all the time, and generally worship the ground they walk on. I like to call this the princess behavior.
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What's so bad about going to a strip club with a guy?

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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If you've ever picked up a Glamour, you know they usually have a section about dos and don'ts. They provide a little entertainment/humor and are really just those little useless facts that might come in handy on your next trivia night. Well the other day I was browsing through the magazine and read that 69 percent of readers say going to a strip club with a guy is a don't.

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Guest post: Learning happiness

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

 

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A couple of weeks ago I had a guest blogger named Samantha Karlin who wrote about how to write an online dating profile.

I have invited her back, this time to talk about how to be happy and content. Even more importantly, how to have a great outlook on things even if living the single life gets you down.

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Ladies, please lose the stache

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

As a single woman, I don't personally have a guy's perspective on pet peeves about women. So that's why I rely on guys to give me their opinion. Since I write about all my little pet peeves about guys I figured it's only fair that I write about the ladies too. Which is perfect since there is a guy I know who's been asking me to write about something women do (or technically don't do) that really gets under his skin.

This little thing is facial hair, actually it's mainly the mustache. Now, clearly I did not know this was an issue but apparently he's been on several dates where it has been. And sure enough, I have talked to a couple of other guys who said that they have noticed the same thing. Honestly, I didn't really know that guys noticed that kind of thing but apparently they do and apparently they don't find it attractive.

And sure, I know. It seems like a little thing so why can't a guy get past it? Well, let's face it, as women we also have little things that we can't get past either. In fact, when I wrote for examiner.com, I wrote a whole article about why guys wear socks during sex. Everyone has something so I feel this little thing is definitely fair and valid. And I mean come on, this is a pretty easy and cheap thing to fix.

So ladies, lose the stache. Here are some products that can help you do it.

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If he doesn't call to get his hat back then he's just not that into you

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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This is not the actual hat. I am not sure if I would call a woman to get this hat back either.

I feel like I am a pretty smart woman when it comes to knowing if a guy isn't into me or not. You go on a great date, its been a couple of weeks and you haven't heard from him. Pretty clear he is not interested right? Maybe you send him a text or call him and he doesn't respond. Again, pretty clear he is not interested. Generally I feel this is pretty straight forward and I am not the woman who makes excuses about why he didn't call and so on.

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The Single Mingle Show at Spy Bar

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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Something new is coming to the single nightlife in Chicago. The Single Mingle Show is an interactive dating show similar to the dating game. It is Chicago's only live dating show. What could be more fun then a night out in the city mixed with a game show?

The debut of the show will be on January 23 at 6:00 PM and will be hosted at Spy Bar.

To find more information about the show and how to apply to be a contestant click here.

My niece has given up hope I will ever get married

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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Kids are fantastic. I mean there is nothing like a kid's perspective on the world. They tell it like it is with brutal honesty. Plus, they rock at giving compliments to make your world a little better when you feel like it just plain sucks.
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Confident being a single lady? The Ah Ring is for you

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

If you are a woman who is confident with her status as a single lady, then you definitely need to check out the Ah Ring. Created by Ruta Fox, it is the first and only ring diamond ring created just for single women.

The Ah Ring stands for availably and happy, which is pretty clever in my opinion. It was created as a way for single women to show the world they are available and proud of it, which is of course is equally clever in my opinion.

As Ruta put it in an e-mail to me:

I figured married and engaged women had their ring, why not one for single women? It's about feeling good when you are single, and empowered, joyful and confident.

To find out more about the Ah Ring and how you can purchase one of your own, check out the website here.

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Chicago's Top 16 Most Eligible Bachelorettes

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

Ever wondered where all the great single ladies in Chicago are? Well there is no need to look any further. Get ready to swoon and wipe up the drool fellas, because here are Chicago's top most eligible bachelorettes for 2009.

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