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Book review: It Just Hasn't Happened Yet

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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I've mentioned before (on more than one occasion) that as a single person I feel like I am constantly explaining why I am single. Whenever someone asks me I generally say something about how I haven't met someone who I want to be non single with yet. After I say this I generally feel like this should be enough but we all know that sometimes that just isn't the case. Instead the other person feels they need to give you advice and/or diagnose why you are single.
 
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Winner of the Andrea Syrtash He's Just Not Your Type Book Giveaway

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

Earlier this week in honor of the release of Andrea Syrtash's new book He's Just Not your Type (and that's a good thing) I started a little contest so readers could win a copy of the book.

The contest closed last night. It was a lot of fun and I really enjoyed hearing everyone's responses about their types and "nontypes." Thank you so much to everyone who entered.

I am excited to announce that the winner is Anetra Smith (@AnetraS7 on Twitter). Her reply was "A musician or sensitive type."

Anetra please email me your address and I will send the book to you.

Andrea Syrtash's He's Just Not Your Type speaking and signing on May 10th

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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Andrea Syrtash is a relationship expert, dating columnist and life coach. She has been seen on VH1, NBC and is also a contributor for Oprah.com. In her new book He's Just Not Your Type (and that's a good thing), she shares her approach to finding a fantastic and healthy relationship. Here she encourages women to look beyond the idea of the man they've always thought they were supposed to marry and instead take a look at the guy they may not consider their type (something she calls a "non-type"). It's that whole idea that sometimes you find love where you least expect it, coincidentally something that I firmly believe in.

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Win a copy of Andrea Syrtash's book He's Just Not Your Type

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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Yesterday I wrote a little post about types. Ok, technically it was a long rant about my frustration with types but who really needs to be technical here? It was actually a perfect topic to start the week though.

Tomorrow Andrea Syrtash's book He's Just Not Your Type (and that's a good thing) will officially be released. The book is about exactly what the title suggests - how dating someone who isn't necessarily your type (something she calls your nontype) might lead you to something really fantastic.

And yes, obviously, I am a huge fan of the whole idea. So to celebrate the book's release, I thought it would be fun to give away a copy to one lucky reader.

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If he doesn't want to ask you out, try making him jealous (Really?)

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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I have started reading a new dating book called Date Like A Man by Myreah Moore and Jodie Gould. So far the book hasn't been that bad but then again, I am only 40 pages in. The main idea about the book is just what the title suggests, telling women how to "date like men." Basically the theory is that since men have so much fun dating (and aren't dead set on finding a partner for marriage) that women should date this way too.

 

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Five traits I never knew were deal breakers

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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A new book has surfaced which could make quite a few single women rethink their dating strategy. Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb hit store shelves yesterday and it's actually causing quite a controversy. The book is about exactly what the title suggests - women settling for "Mr. Good Enough" instead of holding out for "Mr. Perfectly Right."

I will admit that, as a single woman, I find the title of the book really hard to swallow. Honestly I think if I was a man I might have a few issues with it too. Since I haven't read the book I feel it's a little tacky and unfair to really critique it in anyway.

Though, my curiosity has been piqued, which of course led me to do a little research on the author and some of her ideas.

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Guy proofing your apartment: More of the worst dating advice ever

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

A little while ago, I wrote about a little book I like to call The Cookie Cutter's Guide to getting the Cookie Cutter Guy. As a little refresher, the book is called Why Hasn't He Called?

I have found yet another thing that I was not aware I should be worried about while I've been dating - guy proofing your apartment. This book offers a good 15 pages on the subject. Who knew there was that much information? Honestly, I didn't think that guys really paid that much attention to my apartment. And I have to say I think it's pretty tacky for a guy to completely chuck me for any one of these reasons.

The funny part about all this is that they claim that your apartment should be a reflection of who you are. Kind of sounds more like it's a reflection of the woman you want him to think you are. 

I would also like to add here that the authors themselves admit that this was not the case for them (they are a married couple). In fact Matt even said that when he first went to Tamsen's place he couldn't believe what he saw - dirty clothes, no furniture and boxes of stuff everywhere. Yet none of this made him run. Later in the night he found out that there was an explanation for all of it. She was in a transitioning phase. He also admitted that if he hadn't been so into her he might have bailed.

Correct me if I am wrong here, but doesn't this kind of negate their whole theory on guy proofing your pad? Actually I am pretty sure it backs up the idea that what your apartment looks like might have nothing to do with it at all. Maybe it actually might depend on the guy's level of interest. Genius really.

Here are a few of my "favorite" rules and suggestions (and by favorite I mean laughable. I don't condone following these at all). Would any guys out there like to offer their opinion on any of these?

 

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How to end the first date: The worst advice ever

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Jessica Downey

Coffee addict. The serial single girl. Jessica will give you the what’s what on single life and dating in Chicago.

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Dating books are a lot of fun. Generally I like to read them out of curiosity, I always wonder what other people have to say about dating and being single. Plus a little advice never hurts a girl right? Lately I have been reading this book called Why Hasn't He Called. Actually, I would like to call it The Cookie Cutter's Guide to Getting the Cookie Cutter Guy since I feel like that title is far more fitting for the book.

As a side note here, I feel like I should sort of defend the corny title here. Actually, I read the reviews on Amazon.com and that is what hooked me. Honestly, I couldn't believe that a book would actually recommend some of the things the reviews said so I had to see to myself. I am almost done with the book and I have to say the reviews didn't disappoint me. They weren't lying at all. This book gives some of the most absurd advice that I have ever heard.

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