Break ups Archives

Break ups suck. I honestly tried to think of a really clever and creative way to word that, but let's face it there isn't one. Even if you see it coming. Even if you are the person who is ending the relationship. Even if you know there is not a shot at the relationship working. It doesn't matter, a break up is no fun at all.

That's why I am really excited to share a new project that Tristan Coopersmith (one of my favorite relationship coaches) is starting. The project is called the BreakUP Club and the idea is to turn a break up into something positive. It's a place where women can come together to get over a crappy break up in a very positive way.

Apparently things aren't going to work out exactly the way that I thought with Mr. Google. I know that generally things don't work out the way you plan them and that's not always a bad thing. Life is full of surprises and some of them are fantastically pleasant. But no matter how aware you are that things can go bad, it's still disheartening when it actually happens. Actually, it pretty much sucks.

I am honestly not even sure where to start. It's just one of those things where I thought things were going one way but turns out they were going in the complete opposite direction.

A couple of nights ago, I was enjoying a few moments of couch time when I received a text. I looked at my phone to see who it was from and I was a little shocked. The text read "hey what's up it's Mr. BST." It took a few minutes to actually sink in and, honestly, I'm not sure if I can pinpoint what I felt at that very moment. Anger. Frustration. Sadness. Curiosity. Far too many emotions.

Mr. BST was my first love. I guess you could call him my ex though I have to use that term pretty loosely here because I'm not really sure what he is or ever was. But the important thing to know here is that somewhere in whatever we were (or weren't) doing we fell in love. Utterly, madly, hopelessly in love.

Anyone who knows me will tell you I am a pretty impatient person, I always have been. I am the type of person who likes to get things done and I always go after what I want. It's part of what brought me to the city - I need the hustle, the noise and all it's craziness. These are things that just seem natural to me, it's who I am. Sometimes I wonder, though, if it makes me give up too easily.

A little while ago I sort of put my feelings out there for a guy by telling him that I was interested in him. His response? "I really appreciate that." Ouch thanks douche bag really. I mean generally I am not an advocate for that whole no response thing, but clearly in this case I would have rather had that. If you can't be honest then why even bother? Why are guys such wussies when it comes to telling a woman they are just not that into her?

The other day I met up with a guy I know at Delilah's. We had a few beers and ended up swapping a few crazy dating stories. Lately, I have noticed that as I have started writing about single life more and more people have started sharing their stories with me (especially guys). This is definitely a great thing and I am by no means complaining. I enjoy listening to other people's stories and it is part of the reason I started writing in the first place. Plus, it makes for great conversation as well.

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I was doing some channel surfing when I caught a couple minutes of The New Adventures of Old Christine. One of the characters, Richard, had apparently started dating a girl who he felt was a little crazy and he decided to end it. Moments later, the couple was sitting at dinner when he started with the whole "we need to talk" speech.