I'm depressed I don't have your number
I have kind of neglected my OkCupid profile lately. It wasn't something that I did intentionally, it just really sort of happened. Though, I mean I feel like that seems pretty logical since I was busy planning my trip to New York and then I was actually In New York. Plus, we all know I have bad luck when I am busy and getting ready to go out of town.
Well, I came back and like any internet dating junkie I checked my messages. There wasn't really anything exciting there but while I was "online" I received two instant messages. One was from a fairly cute 22-year-old (the jury is still out on where I will go with that one) and the other was from a guy whom I have never met and haven't talked to in weeks for a few different reasons.
- He is from an entirely different state than I am. I have made it clear that I am perfectly fine with long distance but it seems a little weird to seek out people in a totally different location. Actually, it kind of makes me wonder if there is some kind of ulterior motive there.
- He kept asking me over and over about past relationships or if I wanted a relationship. We have established that I am not a fan of these forms of questions. But even more than that he kept asking me. I mean literally every time we would talk he would ask me when my last relationship was or how long my longest relationship was (or usually both). It doesn't make it seem like a guy is all that interested in me if he can't remember things I tell him about myself, especially if I have told him 994 times before.
- He asked me for my number so he could text me. I mentioned that I'm not overly excited with guys who ask for my number just to text so he said he wanted to call as well. However, he ended up only texting me and never called.
- He called me a bitch. One night we were having one of our many text conversations. I made a snarky reply to something he said to which he responded "wow, you're a bitch." Later he told me that he was drunk and didn't remember. I am pretty sure I don't need to explain this one, but just incase I will say it's not cool to call me a bitch (unless I am actually being a bitch). Plus, if that wasn't bad enough I need a guy that can handle when I am being my sassy self.
As if those reasons weren't enough, you can also add the fact that he didn't bother to keep my number.
So anyway, I stopped talking to him, but he sent me a message and it went a little something like this:
OkCupid Guy: hey stranger
OkCupid Guy: :)
OkCupid Guy: how are u doing ???
Me: Fabulous but extremely tired. Just got back from NYC yesterday
OkCupid Guy: how was that ????
Me: Freaking awesome. I am still depressed I had to leave
OkCupid Guy: haha i bet
OkCupid Guy: I am depressed i dont have ur number anymore
OkCupid Guy: what is it ??
OkCupid Guy: xxx-xxx-xxxx (he gave me his number)
Me: haha that's probably the worst line ever
OkCupid Guy: well its true
He then went on to say how immature he was and something about how he is looking for a real relationship now. I know I shouldn't have responded at all, but what can I say, I was curious (very poor excuse I know).
Let me see if I have this straight. In a mere few weeks you went from being that guy to a suddenly different guy. I try to be pretty accepting of others, but I am not sure I can really buy that. Especially since when I refused to give him my number and stopped answering him he started to throw a tantrum.
So thanks for the offer buddy. I mean thanks, really. But still, I think I am going to have to pass.
6 Comments
Matthew Milam said:
OkCupid and Match.com are wastes of time. The users are like any other dating site (they want pictures). This isn't a generation that reads anyway (not saying all, but it's pretty clear).
Jessica Downey said:
I am not sure I would say it's a waste of time. I have known couples that have been successful. It's an easy way to meet new people. And I think it's only normal to want to see pictures. When you meet a person in a public/non-internet setting, aren't you likely to go up to a person that you think is attractive?
Matthew Milam said:
Yeah, and that's usually how every relationship falls apart. You go on attraction, then you figure out the other person sucks as an individual, then you rent Sex and The City and complain with your girlfriends that men suck.
It's a bit of an infinite loop
Jessica Downey said:
That's kind of a generalization, don't you think? I definitely don't base my relationships on physical attraction. Granted I think you have to be attracted to the person but there is so much more to attraction for me than just what a person physically looks like. I wouldn’t date a person with a crappy personality just because I am physically attracted to them. If I am not attracted to someone's personality then I don’t date them. I also don't base my dating life on Sex and the City and I definitely don't think all men suck.
Matthew Milam said:
I don't think you do base relationships on physical attraction. I'm just saying, or what I was trying to say, is that most people go to these sites to look for people who are attractive. Attraction, at it's base level, is physical. Whether the person is a jerk, whether the person is crazy, doesn't matter. Sexy is a must.
I know you wouldn't date based on attraction and I know some don't, but the majority of the people who date via these websites aren't dating because they are reading the profile. They are looking at the pictures FIRST and then maybe the rest second.
Again, I know you are different and don't do all that. Just saying for everyone else...
Jessica Downey said:
Thanks for clearing that up. :) I would mostly agree with you there. A lot of guys cast a pretty wide net and then wait and see who responds. Always seemed very odd to me.
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