Avoid the excuses if you aren't into me

Long story short, we went to dinner and then back to my place for some scary movies where there was some G-rated first date sort of stuff (no kissing involved here). We exchanged a few texts after he left my place and talked on the phone a couple of times. Actually, he dropped what he was doing at the time just to take my call. I ended up asking him out for my birthday and he said he had to make sure he was free and would let me know.

Apparently he decided it would be a much better idea to wait until my birthday and send me a message on Facebook. Way to be mature buddy. I mean really is this what it comes to? He said he was truly sorry and something about some mental game he was dealing with. Then a few days later, another message about what a douche bag he's been for not calling and hoped that I could forgive him.

I understand that guys are busy and have lives. Not a problem, really. However, when its been a couple of weeks since the first date and the guy hasn't called me but finds time to send me messages about his lack of calling, I am smart enough to know that this guy is not into me. Which is fine it happens. I actually have a pretty good feeling he wasn't all that interested after he left my place on the first date. Once again, it happens. But really, why put all the effort into making sure I know he's sorry?

Now, I am a woman who gives credit where credit is due. Truth be told, it wasn't a bad date by any means and I had a really good time. It's just all the stuff after the date that kind of negates the fact that he was such a great date. So here are a few tips I feel are worth mentioning for anyone who ever finds themselves in a situation like this. And if the guy from Facebook is reading, take a few notes my friend. 

• When a girl invites you back to her place, whether it be planned ahead of time or not, it is generally a sign that the date is going well. Unless you are sitting at opposite ends of the couch with your arms crossed, at some point in the night, you should kiss her. Just a peck will do. Really I promise.
• If you aren't interested in a girl there is no need to ever drop everything you are doing to talk to her. Especially do not tell her that you have done this as it only implies that you are in fact interested. It does not make you polite and the "good" guy just because you answered the phone. Honestly, it really does not make you any better then the guy that just ignores the phone call.
• Issues of any sort are not a get out of jail free card. Actually, it's probably not the best idea to mention anything about mental issues or mental games, really anything including the word mental, within the first couple weeks of meeting.
• If you are over the age of 18, Facebook is not the preferred method to use to apologize to a woman. I am pretty sure if you have time to send a woman a message on Facebook, you can take a couple of seconds more to call her. Shouldn't you really want her to know you really are that sorry anyway? 
• Speaking of apologies, unless you are actually sorry there is really no need to apologize at all. The only kind of apology that means anything to a woman is one that is genuine. If you don't really plan on backing it up, that means it's not really genuine. Which means don't even bother.

I get that the guy lost interest in me and honestly, that's not really the issue here. Clearly it sucks, but let's face it this is not the first time and probably won't be the last. I just don't see the point in dragging it out. While I will never be the woman who encourages anyone to just ignore someone they have lost interest in, at least it's blatantly obvious there. So how about we try this instead. If you aren't interested then just get straight to the point and fess up so we can both go on about our lives.