I love that there are smart people who write helpful pieces and publish them online. They help make me a more informed person and a better parent. I like passing along my favorites in the hopes that you may find some of them helpful, too. I've recently read a few thoughtful articles that made me look at my teen differently that I wanted to share here.
No, Your Teen Doesn’t Hate You. It’s Just Summer. by Lisa Damour in The New York Times
"In the day-to-day of raising young people we are proud to share with the world, it can be helpful to remember that teenagers tend to live both up, and down, to our expectations. Should a long view come in handy, reflect on your own experience. Most adults grow and change quite a bit after age 18. We did, and our teenagers will, too.
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Indeed, the sometimes unwelcome transformations that come with adolescence almost always signal that things are going just as they should."
The Family Memory You Think You Have by Sue Shellenbarger in The Wall Street Journal
"Parents are often surprised by what their teens and young adult children remember from childhood. Children and parents may turn imagined events into memories, misremember details, or interpret shared events differently. And grown children often recall incidents parents have forgotten or blocked out.
Taking time to compare memories and hash out the differences can help family members make peace with lingering issues that they never thought they could resolve."
The “Difficult” Teen & What We Can Do Immediately to Improve the Outlook by Hands Free Revolution
"If you ask me, negative teen stereotypes are a cop out. Saying teens are 'difficult' is an easy way to rid ourselves of any responsibility. Labels allow us to throw our hands in the air declaring, 'Teens will be teens.' Labels allow us to deny the critical stage kids are in – a stage of growing into themselves, finding their way, cultivating their gifts. But it is a stage of life that they most need us as their ally – someone who looks sees their goodness and voices it so they always remember their worth."
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