Talking about sexual consent is a really important part of talking about sex with tweens and teens, as illustrated by recent news and books like John Krakauer's Missoula. Kids are confused, and need guidance, but a lot of parents don't know how to start or have that conversation.
Thankfully, there is this great video on consent that uses animated stick figure to clearly spell out what consent is (and is not), all in the context of offering someone a cup of tea. Sounds crazy, but watch it, and it will make a ton of sense.
The video is just under 3 minutes long, and it uses the word sex only twice, in the last 10 seconds, when the narrator makes the point, "If you can understand how completely ludicrous it is to force people to have tea when they don't want tea, and you are able to understand when people don't want tea, then how hard is it to understand when it comes to sex? Whether it's tea or sex, consent is everything."
My other favorite portion: "If they say 'no thank you', then don't make them tea at all. Just don't make them tea. Don't make them drink tea, don't get annoyed at them for not wanting tea. They just don't want tea, OK?"
I didn't know until I saw this video that I needed it as a parenting tool, but really, it's so good. It's a little funny, and the narrator's accent is fun, too, for us Americans.
Tell your kid you have a YouTube video to watch together. Then actually watch it with them. Send the message that you think consent is important and that it's very important.
How awesome would it be if all kids saw this video?
Related Post: 9 reasons to talk about sex with your kids
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