"Pouring salt in my sugar won't make yours any sweeter" is just one of many lines in Kacey Musgraves' new song "Biscuits" that makes me want to stand up and applaud. I'm loving this new country song in part because pretty much each line makes me want to exclaim, "Amen!"
I thought that the lyrics make great guidelines for social media for kids. Then, after seeing a lot of shaming of others online, people jumping to conclusions about others without knowing all the facts, and haters trying to tear people down, I thought that this song should be required listening as a guide to life for pretty much everyone, adults included.
Here are some of my favorite lines (which are also fabulous life lessons) from "Biscuits":
1. "Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy."
Simple, and oh so true. Minding your own business and worrying just about yourself may be easier said that done, but it is feasible. And teaching our kids to do that really will save them so much time and grief.
2. "I've never gotten taller makin' someone else feel small / If you ain't got somethin' nice to say, don't say nothing' at all."
The last part of this is an oldie but a goodie for a reason. Wouldn't social media be awesome if everyone followed this rule and focused on making everyone feel tall?
3. "I'll just do me and honey, you can just do you."
We are all wonderfully unique. I feel like our kids get this message time and again when they are little, but that's out the window by the time they're tweens. Wanting to fit in and go with the crowd is developmentally appropriate, but they can still use reminders that there's only one them. Individuality is important and something to celebrate, both in themselves and others.
4. "Pouring salt in my sugar won't make yours any sweeter"
I know I mentioned this off the bat, but why oh why can't people just be happy for the success of others and not tear them down? This reminds me of the meme currently circulating about how there is room for everyone to succeed.
5. "Mend your own fences and own your own crazy"
Knowing how to sincerely apologize is another life skill that is hugely important. No one is perfect, so it's important to know how to make things right when we do inevitably make a mistake.
6. "I wouldn't know about the rocks in your shoes"
You never know the battles other people are fighting and even if someone, or their life, looks perfect from the outside, chances are it's not. We all struggle, and that's a good thing to learn early and remember always. A little compassion can go a very long way.
Take a listen to the whole song, which has more great gems:
Admittedly, the grammar kills me a wee bit and she sings "damn" and "pissin'" so there may be a minor language issue, but I'm pretty sure those are things our tweens and teens have heard before so this isn't exactly breaking new ground.
I think the messages are so good and important that I can overlook those and hope that this song gets played far and wide, and that people take heed of the great lyrics.
Do you have a favorite line from the song "Biscuits"? Please share it in the comments!
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