I was an adult when I made the decision to become Catholic and prepared to be baptized. In fact I remember the exact date: December 13, 1979.
Those who attended, thought it was because I was getting married, but in reality, my then boyfriend and I had not decided to tie the knot at that point. We waited several months before we became engaged.
You see, becoming Catholic was not something I did to get married. Oh sure, I could have done that, gotten married and never set foot in a church again until the next wedding or baptism, but that's not how I wanted to do it.
I wanted to take it seriously. I was going to become Catholic whether I got married or not and that was kind of scary. I knew God was calling me, but I didn't know what was going to happen after that.
Looking back, I would have hoped that I would have joined another parish and continued my journey, but to be honest, I think I would have found it a lot harder without my husband. I'm an outgoing person, but walking into a strange church by myself would have been a bit daunting. My husband gives me confidence without even saying a word.
When I told our daughter that my baptism didn't guarantee that her dad and I would have gotten married, she was blown away!
In the end, it worked out for all of us. ;-)