Forgiveness is tricky business, but Mother Teresa puts it simply:
“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” ― Mother Teresa
That last line, "It was never between you and them anyway," is the deciding factor don't you think?
People not only enrich our life, they make us downright crazy! If it's not a family member, it's a co-worker or a good friend that might make you mumble to yourself, "Who IS this person?
Reading Mother Teresa's quote for the umpteenth time finally gave way to the light bulb moment for me: forgiving my mother was not about her and me, but God and me. This is the real reason for my conversion. This is why I have come this far in my journey. It was never about my relationship with my mother, but about having a relationship with God.
Once I came to God willingly, He was able to reveal to me what forgiveness is so that I could experience it for myself. I must admit, it took a very long time. I got in His way a lot.
The process was worth it!