Why Catholics Leave the Church : A Commentary by Fr. Barron

Since I converted to the Catholic faith as an adult, I'm always intrigued by those who are Cradle Catholics who don't attend Mass, bad mouth the Church, yet still insist they are Catholic.

This past Easter (or Christmas for that matter) really drew the crowds.  You almost want to tell them, "You know, we're here every week."

What I found interesting in this video is Fr. Barron's perspective that some of these things are fixable.  He's right.  How many times have you heard, "The church did this to me."  No, the church didn't do anything to you.  Some person in the church did.  We, as a church, are populated with imperfect people.

I've written before about the tyrannical king of a pastor.  That kind of priest would probably rather choke than make a phone call to a former parishioner and ask them why they left.  And to be honest, he knows darn well why they left.  It's usually because of him.

My husband and I are in music ministry.  We are both aware that we are the "face" of the church.  From the music we choose, to greeting new and old faces, we understand that we represent being Catholic.

My husband and I have left two parishes when we were treated badly.  It was never an issue of never going to church again.  It was always, "Where do we go now?"  So we went parish shopping until we found a new home.

Before I was Catholic, I could have cared less about my soul, but now it's important to me.  I will go to church wherever I can to take part in the Eucharist.  Now that we've found a spiritual home, it just makes my spirit soar higher.

When I say the rosary every night, I've incorporated one of Fr. Benedict Groeschel's prayers.  Before praying the first three Hail Mary's he prays for an increase of faith, hope and love for each.

I've added, "and for those who have left, may they return to church .. especially (fill in the blank).



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  • I think many men, anyway, have left the Catholic Church because of the leftist social agenda heard from, sadly, the top on down. In addition, the Catholic Church has been feminized to the point where some men will feel that they are almost being assaulted verbally for being men.

    Jesus Christ is depicted in a very feminine way, at least for the last forty years.

    When I was in college a whole group of good guys I knew attending Niles Seminary chose to leave because of the overwhelming homosexual presence and the constant harassment of hetro-sexual men.

    It is a shame, because nothing has really replaced the strong, Jesus-centered Church of sixty and seventy years ago. There are the churches that tell you you are "saved", but you do not have to amend your ways --"go and sin no more" -- and there are the mega-churches that have more special effects that Avatar.

    Pope John-Paul II brought a strong and, yes, masculine, voice back to the Church, but it has yet to trickle down. There is hope. Some younger priests do not seem so girly and wishy-washy and actually demand something from their flock, and the Church has seen what sleeping with the Devil, in the form of riding the government social programs, has done.

    It is fixable, but there are a lot of institutional sins to atone for within the Church.

    Oh, and another difference in churches: the Real Presence. No light show can take the place of that sublime difference.

  • In reply to Richard Davis:

    Dang Richard! You're good! You brought up some awesome points that I didn't even think of! Thanks for stopping by.

  • This is a self-righteous blog post.

    Yes, I'm a Catholic. And as a Catholic, I don't need to hear how great you are at being a Catholic.

    Read Matthew, Chapter 6.

  • Wow Siblingless, some of the commentors on your blog make me appreciate the fact that I have virtually no followers on mine. I hope that my comments are at least welcomed even if we differ in our viewpoints.

    Like you, I'm a RCIA product. I also wondered why cradle catholics could only make it to church twice a year. And after a dozen years or so, I've also had my fill of imperfect people influencing me to seek another parish.

  • In reply to darkangel:

    darkangel, it's amazing what happens to your spirit when you go to a parish where it can be fed not only by the Eucharist, but by the priests and the community!

    What commentators? ;-)

  • In reply to darkangel:

    No matter what the parish it is the Body and Blood. Personally, my experience with the Church and its clergy has ranged from benign to thoughtless to evil.

    An example of thoughtless is when my father was dying of cancer not one of the priests from the parish where he had volunteered so many, many times, came to see him, anoint him, or hear his confession. My father was a convert, too. The Salvation Army minister next door ministered to him quite often and prayed with him.

    Still, these are the failings of the humans in the Church. But it does strain your faith. My opinion is that it does not matter what parish you belong to, but that you can be in the Real Presence.

    For all of my adult life the Church offered very little in the way of ministry to me, because I was single (though had a girlfriend) and had no children. Kind of the odd man out. Well, so was Jesus, I guess.

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