If I were running for president, and someone asked me if I submit to my husband, I probably would blurt out, "None of your damn business." But hey, that's just me.
Why anyone would ask a presidential candidate that question is beyond me. A candidate's marriage is no ones business unless you get caught philandering during the campaign or after the election that you've just won. If you are cheating while on the public's dime you should be fired.
Before I was Catholic, I would cringe when I heard stuff like "submitting to my husband." When I converted and got married "submission" took on a complicated meaning.
Once in a heated argument, my husband "laid down the law." We were arguing about my mother and he felt that my friends were influencing me to stay away from her. He blurted something out in anger that I couldn't have any friends come to our home anymore or something equally ridiculous.
None of my friends were doing any such thing. All were supportive of my taking care of my mother even though they knew that I was emotionally battered and drained.
After my husband made his demand, my blood ran cold. I slowly sat down and lowered my voice. I explained to him that my decision to stay away from my mother was of my own choosing and a matter of my own survival. Since I'm an only child, my friends are my family.
When we both calmed down, my husband agreed to take care of her until I was strong enough to go back, which I eventually did.
Here's the thing: I trust my husband. If he says something (even in anger) I have to consider it. If it's ridiculous, well then, I have to calmly explain my side. We don't always agree, but I can't imagine him "making" me do something that I was against.
Maybe in this day and age where divorce is so predominant, no one really understands what marriage is about anymore. I've been married 29 years and I wasn't really sure until I read something that Fr. John Corapi wrote in his book Ever Ancient ... Ever New.
Father was counseling an engaged couple and was asking them questions about what they wanted in their life together. Answers ranged from children, to a home and electronics. But then he asked them, "How about heaven? How about eternal beatitude? How about being together forever with God and all of the angels and saints?"
The couple had never thought of that! Mm ...
The best thing that I've read that summarizes marriage is again, by Fr. John Corapi:
"Husband and wife must make a decision, and this is the essence of authentic love: it is a decision, an act of the will, not mere feelings. Feelings are part of it, but not the essential part. Feelings come and go. We must decide to love, "in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, rich or poor, until death do we part ..." We may well not feel like it at any point on the journey, but to remain faithful is a decision. To will to sacrifice oneself for the sanctification of one's spouse and the children is a decision -- it is true love."