Wives Submit!

Wives Submit!

If I were running for president, and someone asked me if I submit to my husband, I probably would blurt out, "None of your damn business."  But hey, that's just me.

Why anyone would ask a presidential candidate that question is beyond me.  A candidate's marriage is no ones business unless you get caught philandering during the campaign or after the election that you've just won.  If you are cheating while on the public's dime you should be fired.

Before I was Catholic, I would cringe when I heard stuff like "submitting to my husband."  When I converted and got married "submission" took on a complicated meaning.

Once in a heated argument, my husband "laid down the law."  We were arguing about my mother and he felt that my friends were influencing me to stay away from her.  He blurted something out in anger that I couldn't have any friends come to our home anymore or something equally ridiculous.

None of my friends were doing any such thing.  All were supportive of my taking care of my mother even though they knew that I was emotionally battered and drained.

After my husband made his demand, my blood ran cold.  I slowly sat down and lowered my voice.  I explained to him that my decision to stay away from my mother was of my own choosing and a matter of my own survival.  Since I'm an only child, my friends are my family.

When we both calmed down, my husband agreed to take care of her until I was strong enough to go back, which I eventually did.

Here's the thing:  I trust my husband.  If he says something (even in anger) I have to consider it.  If it's ridiculous, well then, I have to calmly explain my side.  We don't always agree, but I can't imagine him "making" me do something that I was against.

Maybe in this day and age where divorce is so predominant, no one really understands what marriage is about anymore.  I've been married 29 years and I wasn't really sure until I read something that Fr. John Corapi wrote in his book Ever Ancient ... Ever New.

Father was counseling an engaged couple and was asking them questions about what they wanted in their life together.  Answers ranged from children, to a home and electronics.  But then he asked them, "How about heaven?  How about eternal beatitude?  How about being together forever with God and all of the angels and saints?"

The couple had never thought of that!  Mm ...

The best thing that I've read that summarizes marriage is again, by Fr. John Corapi:

"Husband and wife must make a decision, and this is the essence of authentic love:  it is a decision, an act of the will, not mere feelings.  Feelings are part of it, but not the essential part.  Feelings come and go.  We must decide to love, "in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, rich or poor, until death do we part ..."  We may well not feel like it at any point on the journey, but to remain faithful is a decision.  To will to sacrifice oneself for the sanctification of one's spouse and the children is a decision -- it is true love."

 

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  • What has caught my eye is how this subject is being more openly discussed among the younger generation. Surprising, as you would think this view is considered old-school. I have read ChicagoNow blogs written by young women who have also touched upon this point of view. Hmmmmm.....

  • Maybe one can ask potential First Man Bachmann about that (especially given reports about his supposed religious views). Or Bill Clinton, for that matter. The latter made others submit, though, and left DNA stains.

  • What's between a husband and wife is their business. That said, Bachman is a wack job, and she'd probably pass a law to make all Catholics convert.

  • In reply to Andy Frye:

    "What's between a husband and wife is their business."

    ^^^ I was going to mention several things that could be between a husband and wife that would make it more than just their business.....but I've decided to hold back. It will just lead me down a road I've traveled before.

  • In reply to Andy Frye:

    Pssst. Andy! The President doesn't "pass laws." The Congress does. The President only signs them into law or vetoes them. Besides that, such a law would be unconstitutional, since it would go against the first Amendment. Are you really as anti-Catholic as you sound? Just askin'... :)

  • Reminds me of a Cajun joke I once heard. Young Boudreaux was recently married, and sitting at the bar talking to his good friend, old man Thibodeaux. Old man Thibodeaux liked young Boudreaux, so he said, "Son, let me give you the best piece of advice I can with regards to your marriage. You need to let her know that you are in charge, not her. When you go home, you need to tell her you're the boss, and what you say goes! When you say, "Leap!" she is to ask, "How high!" That way, your marriage will be a delightful affair for you and you'll both live in peace." Young Boudreaux thanked him for the advice and said he was going right home to try it.

    Old man Thibodeaux didn't see young Boudreaux for a couple of months, but when he did, he asked him if he'd taken his advice. Young Boudreaux said, "Yes, sir! I did that very night!" And old man Thibodeaux asked, "Well, how did that work for you?" Young Boudreaux said, "Well, she got mad and I didn't see her for three days!" Old man Thibodeaux smiled, and asked, "Oh, she went home to her momma to pout?" Young Boudreaux said, "No, it took that long before the swelling in my eyes went down where she hit me and I could see." LOL

  • This is part of the reason why the question is valid. This a quote from a speech she gave while while she was running for the House, so it was not as if she was expressing a private opinion, in a private setting that was leaked to the press via a cell phone camera.

    “My husband said ‘Now you need to go and get a post-doctorate degree in tax law.’ Tax law! I hate taxes—why should I go and do something like that?” ...“But the Lord says be submissive. Wives, you are to be submissive to your husbands.” - Michele Bachmann, October 2006.

    She has said often and publicly that God has told her to run so her biblical views are a valid point of inquiry.

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