Civil Unions: Do You Want to be Married or Do You Want to be Able to Divorce?

I've been thinking about civil unions quite a bit lately.   So much so that I started remembering a couple of guys I knew "back in the day."

One of them was a college student who quietly came out to his friends.  He was not about to tell his family under any circumstances.  He would socialize with his straight friends and then his other life would start.  We were not introduced to anyone involved in his lifestyle nor was their any significant other in his life.  The times back then was filled with one night stands for heterosexuals as well as homosexuals.
The other guy was a college professor.  I don't believe he ever told his family either.  He was very handsome and his female students were always trying to "convert" him.  It never happened, that I know of, despite their best efforts.

Fast forward to the present time and I see that now some people want same sex marriage.  But what I see currently, is when it is offered, divorce becomes the end result.

I'll be honest.  I believe marriage should be between a man and a woman.  If civil unions are allowed between same sex couples, someone else is going to come around and demand that in their lifestyle, they should marry who they want also.  It's going to get pretty bizarre, I'm sure.
For practicality, I know people want health insurance, but I have a problem with that, too.  If you are taking care of an elderly parent and your job has excellent health benefits, the only way to get that parent on your insurance is to have your parent declared incompetent and take legal guardianship over them.  If you have a parent of "sound" mind, they will probably not want to give up their rights for insurance.  
One of our children cannot be put on my husband's insurance because he's too old.  He lives at home, goes to school and works part time.  We should be allowed to have that child on our insurance.
We also live in a culture where divorce is a commonality.  There's an attitude of, "if it doesn't work out, we'll get divorced."  My father was ashamed that he had been divorced.  Now it's almost flaunted.
The Catholic church will never sanction same sex unions, so you need to move on from that.  As same sex couples get "married," it will be interesting to see what happens.  I'm curious to see what is really the goal of the union.

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  • "I'll be honest. I believe marriage should be between a man and a woman."

    "The Catholic church will never sanction same sex unions, so you need to move on from that."

    What would you do/think IF tomorrow or five or ten years from now, the Church sanctioned same sex unions? Or even same sex marriages?

  • "But what I see currently, is when it is offered, divorce becomes the end result."

    Hmm.. Massachusetts has one of the lowest divorce rates in the country and they have had same sex marriage since 2004

    http://www.fivethirtyeight.com/2010/01/divorce-rates-appear-higher-in-states.html

    Also in Denmark which has had civil unions since 1989 the dissolution rate is lower than that of heterosexual marriage.

    "The Catholic church will never sanction same sex unions, so you need to move on from that."
    That's fine, even now, you can get married without ever setting foot in a church, and for those who want some religious element to their civil union, there are other denominations that will.

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