The Layers of the Onion
"Forgiveness is like the layers of an onion. As the layers are peeled away, you either get a bad smell or a sweet taste." - Siblingless ;-)
Out of everything Christians believe in, forgiveness is probably the most difficult. In one of my previous blogs
, I wrote about my own experience. I have found that there are degrees of forgiveness. Sometimes the memory and the offense is completely wiped from the slate of my soul and other times it is a distant, albeit, still painful memory.
And then there are times when it burns like the day it first happened.
On April 23 the Chicago Tribune did several articles on different experiences of forgiveness. The articles are heart-wrenching stories of people who have experienced the loss of loved ones in the most violent and unforgivable ways. Some have found forgiveness and some still struggle in faith.
What I've learned over the years is that when I hold on to my grievance, it grows and festers within me. The layers of that onion become putrid in their stench and my soul suffers more from my hanging on to the offense done to me. It's hard to let it go.
But when I've distanced myself (in some cases physically), I start to heal and as time goes by, the layers of that onion come away and the sweet fragrance is allowed to simmer up so there's only the briefest of memory and hurt.