Free Marriage Advice for William & Kate!

I'm not interested in the "royal wedding" or the "royal couple."  I actually cringed when I heard that William gave Kate his mother's engagement ring.  Had William's parents' marriage been successful, it may have been more appropriate in my opinion.  But a family heirloom, regardless of it's history, does not a marriage make.

I found an article by Louise Perrotta on marriage in the Catholic Women's Devotional Bible that I thought really spoke to the heart of marriage.  I doubt seriously that the royal couple is reading my blog or seeking advice on their upcoming nuptials, but if you know someone who is planning on being married or is already married, this article might open their minds and hearts.

She hates scraping ice off the windshield.  He tries to get to it first ...


He likes his eggs fried so hard they bounce.  She trains herself to fix them that way ...

She's a morning person.  He's not, but he makes an effort at cheerfulness ... He finds certain social occasions painful.  She doesn't insist ...

He's heard her jokes a million times, but he's still her most appreciative audience ...

You probably know married couples who are heroically keeping their promise to love in bad times as well as good - in financial hardship and family emergencies, under the shadow of Alzheimer's or cancer.  But do you notice too how, all along, happily married couples express their love for one another in countless little attentions?
In big ways and small, marriage always calls a man and a woman to self-giving love of each other and of their children.  But when spouses base their marriage on Jesus Christ, their covenant becomes a sacrament with an even deeper call:  they are to model Christ's redemptive love.  They themselves become sacred signs of how Christ relates to the Church.  Indeed, as St. Paul muses, "This is a great mystery" (see Ephesians 5:28-32).
Amazing enough that Jesus is the Church's bridegroom.  The theme is developed in Scripture, though gradually, by prophets such as Hosea and in the Song of Solomon's lyrical description of married love.  But no less amazing is the bridegroom's call to every Christian couple.  In a symbolic but real way, every married couple - even Steve and Jane down the street - are to make visible the mystery of Christ's love for the Church.  Just as St. Paul says of evangelism, we might as, "who is sufficient for these things?"  (2 Corinthians 2:16).
This is where sacramental grace comes in.  Without the life and power of the Holy Spirit, husband and wife are helpless to fulfill their high calling.  With it, though, they will find all they need - faith, perseverance, and deepening love for every challenge of married life.
Even for frying eggs tennis-ball hard and for not rolling eyes at tired, old jokes.

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  • The only thing I would ask this couple is not to divorce for any reason and then waste everybody's time and money for their second marriage.

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