The Road Not Taken

Some friends of mine were talking about my blog when one of them asked me about the first one.  "What would have happened had you not gotten married?"  Good question.  I had decided to become Catholic whether I had gotten married or not.  All I remember about that was I'd have to find a place to go to church because I obviously wasn't going to attend the church my then boyfriend and I attended together.
I didn't plan beyond that because since then I've always felt that I was exactly where I was supposed to be.  It's still an intriguing question.  I would like to think that I would have found a parish, attended Mass on a regular basis, made friends, and became a eucharistic minister just like I did after I got married.  But to be honest, I don't think it would've worked out like that.  I'm kind of lazy and without the help of the people I met along the way, I don't think I would have gotten this far.
My husband is the key factor here.  He encouraged my faith from the beginning and on days when I just didn't feel like going to Mass, he was the one who would remind me of how important it was.  And then there's the people I have met along the way.  When I look back on the early years of our marriage we were surrounded by the families my husband had grown up with.  Church was a big extended family back then.  The Church was at the center of our social life as well.  Not only would we volunteer we would party right along with everyone else till the early morning hours.
I also joined a prayer group and one of the women from there became my spiritual sister.  She was an amazing spirit who helped guide me in my journey of faith.  When she passed away several years ago around Christmas time, my first thought was, "She went home for Christmas to be with our Lord, whom she loved more than anyone."  I was so blessed to have her in my life.
So in answer to my friend's question, "What would have happened had you not gotten married?"
We wouldn't have met, became friends and shared laughter (in church when we were supposed to be very serious!) and tears.  I wouldn't have missed it for anything.

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