Tag: Friendship

Young, Naive Cancer

Young, Naive Cancer
When I was 23, my fiancé was diagnosed with glioblastoma- terminal brain cancer. Most of our friends were graduating from college, getting jobs, enjoying the freedom that comes in the years after you turn 21 and you make all your biggest mistakes, but not us. Our lives revolved around chemotherapy, radiation, clinical trials, and managing... Read more »

In Memorium

In Memorium
Today we are burying my husband’s grandmother. There are many kind things I could say about her, that she was brilliant and sweet and kind, but mostly when I think of her, I think of a conversation I once had with my mother-in-law. I don’t know what prompted me, but I was compelled to tell her... Read more »

Names and Nightmares

Names and Nightmares
PTSD is a funny animal. And by “funny” I mean “not funny at all, fuck you PTSD.” Last week I posted about the reluctance of people in the lives of rape survivors to find out how closely they might be connected to an assailant. As you might expect, a few friends reached out to me... Read more »
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Saying No to a High School Reunion, or, What To Do when your Friends are Friends with your Rapist

Saying No to a High School Reunion, or, What To Do when your Friends are Friends with your Rapist
This weekend, Mike and I enjoyed an anniversary getaway to Mackinac Island, sans-kids. It would have been wonderful no matter what, but it had the added bonus of giving me a wonderful excuse not to go to my high school reunion. I only attended high school for about fifteen months. Around that time I was raped by... Read more »

Reaching Back When You Reach Out

Reaching Back When You Reach Out
I write about a lot of things that people often don’t know how to talk about in person. Hell, I write about a lot of things I don’t know how to talk about in person. Part of that is the complexity of the social dynamics in a conversation (is this a person I can talk openly about... Read more »

Happily Ever After

Happily Ever After
I write about the idea of “Happily Ever After” a lot. Really, a ton. I write about seeing every day as a beautiful part of the love story of your life. I write about letting go of “forever” and living for the moment, even the shitty ones. Considering that I don’t really believe in “Happily Ever... Read more »
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When the Angel of Death Passes You Over

When the Angel of Death Passes You Over
On Wednesday, M had another round of MRIs, another meeting with his neuro-oncologist, another of those long days where you are constantly both questioning and trying not to question. They’re hard days. No matter how romantic we get inside the hospital, they’re hard days. In some ways, they’re harder now then they used to be.... Read more »

On Burnout, and Gratitude

On Burnout, and Gratitude
What I want to write is a wrap-up of my BlogHer17 trip, the friends I made, the blogs you should follow immediately, the lessons I’ve learned… but I can’t just now. I was up all night being sick, and before I could even put clothes on again yesterday morning I was on the phone, talking fundraisers,... Read more »

Save AmeriCorps!

Save AmeriCorps!
I want to tell you about my two years of National Service with AmeriCorps. When I was 19 I became a VISTA, for the Chicago Housing Authority Recycling Buy-back Program. We provided alternate income sources for people living in public housing, employment opportunities for people who might have otherwise been denied jobs, supported locally owned... Read more »
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Four Words That Will Help Me Save the World

Four Words That Will Help Me Save the World
Two days before Thanksgiving, M had his every-so-many-monthly MRI. For us, it was what it nearly always is. Inconvenient, but not unwelcome. Stressful, but less so than so many other aspects of our lives. Worrisome, but by no means the most worrisome thing in our lives. To be honest, two weeks after the election the... Read more »