Category: Love

Hot Dogs, Birthdays, and Life's Big Questions

Hot Dogs, Birthdays, and Life's Big Questions
Yesterday was my husband’s thirty-sixth birthday. He has lived a third of his life knowing he has brain cancer. At some point in all of our lives, we have an existential crisis. A moment where we wake up in the morning and say to ourselves, “I’m going to die. One day, I’m going to be... Read more »

12 Reasons Having Kids Is The WORST (and 6 unexpected ways it's magical)

12 Reasons Having Kids Is The WORST (and 6 unexpected ways it's magical)
A list of things I hate about having children, in no particular order, and perhaps influenced by how long it’s been since I’ve made a family meal that doesn’t revolve around simple refined carbohydrates. Having to wake up and be responsible for people less functional than me before 7am every day Having to justify or... Read more »

Today's Gratitude Journal: Thank You, Feminist Porn

Today's Gratitude Journal: Thank You, Feminist Porn
The first pornographic movie I ever saw was without a doubt the worst porn I have seen to this day. It was a home-made piece of trash, featuring crying women and a cameraman who played the dual role of the only male figure in every scene, pointing his camera down at his penis and the crying girl... Read more »
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In Memorium

In Memorium
Today we are burying my husband’s grandmother. There are many kind things I could say about her, that she was brilliant and sweet and kind, but mostly when I think of her, I think of a conversation I once had with my mother-in-law. I don’t know what prompted me, but I was compelled to tell her... Read more »

What I've Learned in 10 Years of Marriage

What I've Learned in 10 Years of Marriage
Mike and I have been married for ten years and a week. I tend to think of Memorial Day weekend as our anniversary, regardless of where it actually falls on the calendar. We were married the Friday of Memorial Day weekend, and spent the entire following three days reveling in our love and Mike’s survival. Weddings... Read more »

A Letter from the Future

A Letter from the Future
Dear Lea, I am writing this letter for you to read the night after Mike’s surgery and diagnosis, once you’re sure all your houseguests are asleep. You won’t be sleeping anyway. Five days ago, on the happiest day of your life, Mike asked you to marry him. Four days ago he had a seizure and... Read more »
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Happily Ever After

Happily Ever After
I write about the idea of “Happily Ever After” a lot. Really, a ton. I write about seeing every day as a beautiful part of the love story of your life. I write about letting go of “forever” and living for the moment, even the shitty ones. Considering that I don’t really believe in “Happily Ever... Read more »

Brain Cancer, Guns, and My Daily Sh*tshow

Brain Cancer, Guns, and My Daily Sh*tshow
Let’s be honest, mornings are a shitshow. Dragging yourself out of bed so that you can drag other unwilling people out of bed, knowing they will fight you on everything from putting on clean underwear and using the bathroom to putting breakfast in their mouths and their shoes on their feet and zipping their goddamn... Read more »

Twice A Week, the NRA Reaps Our Children

Twice A Week, the NRA Reaps Our Children
Recently, I’ve been thinking a lot about the labels of loss. There is a word to define a person who has lost their parents– orphan. It defines them, no matter what else is true of themselves or their lives, it is a fact of their existence. Widow. Widower. These words define people who have lost... Read more »
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Ghosts and Explorers: Living as a Glioblastoma Guinea Pig

Ghosts and Explorers: Living as a Glioblastoma Guinea Pig
Most days, I am very good with fear. I let it roll off of me like sweat, like the hairs that drop from my head seemingly all the time. For a moment I shiver, and it’s it the past. Most days, I am not overwhelmed by the mundanity of it. Six weeks ago, M’s seizures ramped... Read more »