Chicago Bears great and Hall of Famer, Mike Singletary, was in town over the weekend and gave and inspirational speech to the congregation at Willow Creek Community Church in South Barrington.
On forgiving his father:
"I just didn't like him. I didn't like being around him.
I didn't like the way he did things. I really didn't like the way he
treated Mom," he said.
But the decision to forgive him turned out to be the
greatest thing he could do, he said.
"All that stuff and all that hate, I would have passed
that on to my kids. Because I wouldn't have been free to give them what
God was giving me for them. It is one of the greatest decisions I have
ever made as a father," he said.
Turning to God for wisdom and guidance:
"He knows my kids. He knew them before I did. He knows how they're
bent," Singletary said. "I'm always reminded, 'No, Mike, do it according
to my word. Don't manipulate them. Don't make them feel guilty. Don't
try to make them do it the way you would do it. They're not like you.
God created them. And he knows. He has the script. And I just need to
Loving his wife unconditionally:
"If I can love my wife, if I can love her the way Christ loved the
church, if I can love her that way and get myself out of way, that's the
blueprint. Somehow, for all the things that I get wrong as a father,
somehow, some way, my kids will pick it up, because of the way I treat
my wife. They will get it," he said.
On a father's job that never ends:
"When our kids are out of the house, we can't just say, 'OK. That's it. I
paid for this. I paid for that. Go get it. Go live life. That's when
they need us the most," he said. "No, it doesn't mean we have to tell
them how to live. No, it doesn't mean that we have to live their life
for them. No it doesn't mean we have to live our life through them. But
what it does mean is that we're there and we're constantly praying for
them," he said.
Credit: Daily Herald