White Women’s Dependence on White Male Supremacy: What can we do about it?

White Women’s Dependence on White Male Supremacy: What can we do about it?

I saw a tweet the other morning calling on white women to renounce their dependence on white men as a way to change the power structure in this country. The tweet thread that followed purported that it was impossible for the white supremacist male hierarchy to be turned on its head when so many white women are “entrenched” in it.

I have to agree.

We can see evidence of entrenchment in white male supremacy in the fact that more white women than one would expect (the figure is around 53%) voted for Trump. They did so because it was in their own self-interest. They saw a Trump presidency as being good for their (white, upper middle-class) husbands and by the trickle-down economics of marriage, what’s good for their husbands would also be good for them and their children. 

I saw another tweet, in this same vein, that put the onus squarely on white women to change their lives so they don’t have to be dependent on men. Encouraging white women to make this change is great in theory, but putting it into practice is the problem.

When I was pregnant, I was completely taken by surprise that my husband’s job didn’t offer parental leave. I had never imagined that in the new millennium I, because I was a woman, would be the sole parent tasked with the full-time job of caring for our premature twins, or that I would have to give up a life that I had been working so hard for. Because of the lack of laws governing how companies should treat new parents I was forced to be 100% dependent on my husband and on my husband's job. What what was I to do?

We hired a nanny. But let’s consider, who are the domestic workers? Men? I think not. They are always women. Women who are poorly paid, not offered health or other benefits. And if they are married, they have to be dependent on their husbands, because childcare doesn’t pay enough to afford someone a comfortable life. Here's the question I am left asking: Is it sufficient to pass the hierarchic dependency on to another woman so that I can renounce my entrenchment in the white male supremacist system?

My husband could have stayed home with the kids, and I could have worked. However, in my case, I was in medical school, so if my husband would have stayed home, we would have had no income whatsoever.

In other cases, where both partners work outside the home, there is the gender pay gap. When a working couple has that discussion about who is going to stay home with the kids, how would that conversation go? Him: “Who’s going to quit their job?” Her: “Well, I make 75% of what you do for the exact same job.” Him: “Hmm, do we really need that extra 25%?” Her: “Nope. You stay home.” Him: “K.”

This gender-biased system is in place to keep more than one group of people in line. We can see the Republicans getting scared because different oppressed groups (who have been oppressed in different ways and to different extents) are starting to see what they have in common with each other. It is this growth of the awareness of intersectionality that’s important. It’s also important not to blame one group of oppressed people for the misfortunes of another. This only serves to foment division in a social movement. 

We see this division fomented by outside forces, time and again in social movements—white women neglecting to include black women in their demand for suffrage, division in the power structure between men and women in the civil rights movement, division in the women’s movement of the ‘70s between straight and gay women, as well as in companies that give small pay raises or other concessions to their workers to prevent unionization.

This is a time for us to rise together. By working in concert, by seeing the problems first then coming up with solutions, that is the only way we can succeed at turning this country into one in which a majority of us want to live. If we can be divided, then the Republicans have succeeded in quelling the movement and they (the conservatives who are reigning terror on the people of this country and plan to do even more) have won.

The tweet thread referenced above pushes the awakening of white women to a problem. Now the question is, what can we do about it?

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