Every morning, Joel Boggess woke up before his wife and put on his suit and tie. He spent the day in long meetings at Morgan Stanley, wheeling and dealing in investments. He spent long evenings networking. When he arrived home, he didn't have much left in him. His wife was last on the daily list of things to attend to.
This was supposed to be his "dream" job, the one he envisioned when he racked up the Masters in Counseling and the MBA. The money was nice, but the corporate job was slowly killing his spirit. His wife urged him to leave his job. "There were a few aspects of being in corporate America that I liked, but it wasn’t feeding my spirit," said Joel. "I recognized it more and more every day. With a lot of prayer and discussions with my wife, I knew I needed to do something that was more me."
Joel looked back on his life for the clues that would lead him to understand his skills and gifts. Back in high school in San Antonio, Joel taught karate to adults after school. He did more than teaching the mechanics of how to perform the sport; he found himself teaching in a way that incorporated spiritual, mental and emotional growth. His students were flourishing in holistic ways. He did the same when he became a lifeguard after high school and taught swimming classes. "I did a lot more than teaching the strokes," said Joe. "I helped build up confidence and self esteem and helped them go to a better place in their life."
After college, Joel moved to Fort Worth and took a job as a personal trainer. He watched as his clients not only became fit and toned, but their confidence soared. He quickly rose to success and became the top trainer in his region covering three states. One of his clients had an MBA degree from Horton and as Joel listened to him talk about his career, he decided to go to graduate school. "His career it sounded exciting, so I made the mistake, unfortunately, that many people make thinking higher education equals more opportunity. I found out very quickly that it was a disappointment. I thought if I put it on my resume, like a magic wand, people would beat to my door offering me jobs."
Joel learned that higher education doesn't necessarily translate into higher salaries, but definitely a higher responsibility level. "If you want to be a doctor, say a brain surgeon or a lawyer, yeah that requires a higher education and you want a person with a higher education in that job," said Joel. "But in other jobs, it's a myth that higher education will guarantee the highest position and salary. We've all been taught to stay in school, to continue to study. College freshman, by the time they graduate, 80 percent of what they learn will be obsolete."
As Joel looked back on his skills, he realized one of his gifts was the ability to work with people and coach them. His wife introduced him to Dan Miller's 48 day coaching program and urged him to look into it. "My wife knew I was frustrated and I wasn’t 100 percent there. She wanted me to experience meaning and fulfillment." Joel realized his wife was right, he wanted something more out of life than just a job. Dan Miller referred him to one of his coaches, Chuck Bowen, who was a great fit for Joel.
"On November 30, 2006, I left my job. My first thought was 'freedom!' That was the last day I wore a suit and a tie. Suit and ties-- they're against my religion," he laughed. The next day, he woke up with unbridled enthusiasm and began to put the pieces of the puzzle together that would form his coaching business. "I surrounded myself with successful people," he said. "I hung with people they were already gathering six figures or more in their business and I modeled my business after them. I used their materials-- I didn’t see any reason to reinvent the wheel. I created my style and my flair, but I used what was already working. As I grew my business and grew myself as a coach, I added my own flavor."
That "flavor" turned into 4 Points Coaching. The process is a simple, but powerful one. Joel begins by helping people find their best features and qualities. "If people understand their gifts, their skills and abilities and understand their personal style, they learn to embrace their natural ability. They let down their guard. They stop trying to become somebody else."
In the second part of the process, Joel uses worksheets and coaching tools to identify passions. "It's an empowering process," he said. "The worksheets help people get clear about what lights their fire or trips their trigger. For whatever reason, people will think about what they should say or what they think I want to hear--they're just kidding themselves. When they become real about what they're passionate about, they embrace their passions."
In the third part of the coaching process, Joel helps his clients identify their purpose--their "why" of being here and what they're created to do. "That’s the building process of learning about themselves, we put it together," said Joel "People have many passions, there are many things motivate people. With their passions, we use them to build a purposes and when a person sees their purpose with new eyes,they are able to form a vision for their lives."
Vision is the fourth point in the coaching process and one that people often start out with. "With vision, that's when it all comes together," said Joel. "You can't start with vision, there are too many incomplete parts of the puzzle. We start with the process of learning about themselves and we put it together. People have many passions, with their passions we use them to build a purpose and when a person sees their purpose with new eyes, they are able to form a vision for their lives."
Joel has a long list of clients who have made amazing life transformations after undergoing the 4 Points Coaching process. He shared the story of Jackie:
Jackie hated nursing from the first day of school in college. Her mom said what she thought was best: it pays well and you will always have a job. So Jackie followed her mom’s advice and became a nurse. After 22 years on the job, she called me and said, "I have to get out of nursing."
"Your anxiety, does that show up physically?" I asked her. "Is it soul crunching going to this job?" The answer was yes. Jackie was nauseated and sick to her stomach on the drive to work each morning. During the coaching, she realized she wanted to be herself. She had dreams and passions --that was okay, it’s what she needed. It was empowering for her to realize that she was spending years being someone she wasn’t. She would watch the Academy awards, the Golden globes, and she would be sobbing at the actors and their stories. She had that want-- that sense of "that could be me." It was an emotional event for her during our coaching, she got in touch with that feeling. Over time she built her confidence, her self esteem, her awareness-- and took the steps to make it happen. She picked up the phone and got the connections she needed to pursue that career. Almost immediately she got an audition. She was so excited. She also did voice over work for a documentary. It was amazing. She finally turned the corner in a big way, she became an actress.
Joel has a favorite quote by Tony Robbins that he often shares: Passion is the genesis of genius. "I sincerely believe we are all created with a purpose," said Joel. "God has a very specific purpose for all of our lives and we all have a responsibility to find out what that is, to understand who we are. When we are in touch with our best features and qualities, our responsibly is to pursue that with passion."
- Joel Boggess and Zig Ziglar